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Because this is not the mom who raised you, shared so many life experiences with you and was the strong rock in your life. I just went through the experience of watching my mom linger in hospice care until she passed away last Saturday. I think pamstegman's post gave some good advice. It is extremely difficult, yes; but you will endure. I promise you will. Within you lies an inner strength that you need to call on to get you through each day. Truly! I wish you peace in this difficult time.
There are two things that come to mind right away. First, we want them to get better. We want them to get up and do the things they used to do. When they lie there looking awful we realize they aren't going to get up. It feels terrible, because that secret side of us still imagines they might.
Second, we are tethered to them while there is still breath in their bodies. Our lives and emotions are in limbo, just as their lives are in limbo between the two planes. It is an uneasy state even if there is no suffering.
I've seen some people react to the end of life without feeling. It is just like another day at the office. I worry more about what went wrong with these people that something as profound as losing family doesn't faze them. I think it is hard on you because you are a caring person watching a loved one preparing to leave this world. I am glad you are there with her.
This is never an easy time waiting for someone to die. You feel as though there is something you should be doing and feel guilty because you can't save her. You can't save her that is for sure but there are lots of things you can do. Sit and hold her hand, read to her , pray with her, play some soothing music. Light some candles. Snuggle beside her in the bed. slip tiny ice chips into her mouth. Massage her when you reposition. use her favorite scent. Put a cold cloth on her head if she feels hot. keep the sounds in the house normal,don't whisper and tip toe around speak in a normal tone of voice. let the kids comein and tell her what they have been doing at school. if there is anything that needs to be forgiven now is the time to release all that pain. tell he rit is alright for her to go, you will be OK and look after whoever is left behind. Above all tell her how much she is loved.
You still hold her hand, kiss her cheek. Play her favorite music. Talk about her favorite things, she can hear you. And when you need to cry, you go outside and sob your heart out. Been there. Done that.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Second, we are tethered to them while there is still breath in their bodies. Our lives and emotions are in limbo, just as their lives are in limbo between the two planes. It is an uneasy state even if there is no suffering.
I've seen some people react to the end of life without feeling. It is just like another day at the office. I worry more about what went wrong with these people that something as profound as losing family doesn't faze them. I think it is hard on you because you are a caring person watching a loved one preparing to leave this world. I am glad you are there with her.
You can't save her that is for sure but there are lots of things you can do. Sit and hold her hand, read to her , pray with her, play some soothing music. Light some candles. Snuggle beside her in the bed. slip tiny ice chips into her mouth. Massage her when you reposition. use her favorite scent. Put a cold cloth on her head if she feels hot. keep the sounds in the house normal,don't whisper and tip toe around speak in a normal tone of voice. let the kids comein and tell her what they have been doing at school. if there is anything that needs to be forgiven now is the time to release all that pain. tell he rit is alright for her to go, you will be OK and look after whoever is left behind. Above all tell her how much she is loved.