My wife has vascular dementia and extreme difficulty walking even with the aid of a rollater and risk of falling after 30 feet or more as her legs give out.
The doctor and psychiatrist at the VA advised she needs to go to an assisted living facility but after looking at the difference between the two and the costs involved and the fact she is not able to take care of herself at all, it seems the nursing home would be the best option. Her memory is less than one minute and she is also incontinent and needs my help taking care of her.
What is your opinion?
If you decide to go the nursing home route, you will need to check on her often, such as every day.
If you choose a NH, if your income is low you can get Medicaid. You will become the Community spouse. Now this is just a short version, but your income will be looked at and split in a way that you will not be made impoverished. Her half will be spent down and then put on Medicaid.
Aid and Attendance is only for those who served during wartime. This can be used for her care. With her also being a Vet, she could get as much as $1700 a month. This can't be used with Medicaid.
You may want to sit down with a Social Worker at the VA hospital and see what options you have.