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Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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Tell us more. Your partner first: Are you two married? How long have you been together? How old are you, and how old is partner? What is the physical and mental difficulties that dictate your partner needs you to be his caregiver? How old is the partner's daughter and does she live with you.
Now on to Dad: Does Dad live with you? You say in profile Dad is 87 and mobility is limited. How limited is it? How is his mental capacity? It seems he lives with you. Why does he live with you and how long has that been the case?
You say you are worn out and that you yourself are now "falling" (in your profile). Why are you falling? Have you been to your doctor about these falls? What has your doctor said about these falls?
Who works? Who supports this family, or rather how is it financially supported?
Without a good deal more information we cannot tell how you might get some help, nor what help you want to have or exactly WHAT you need help WITH.
Reading your question and your profile, what stands out is that you are 67, your health is suffering, you are worn out, and you ‘are starting to fall and get hurt myself’.
You are propping up not just your father, but also your partner and your step-daughter. They have arguments with you all the time. What are the arguments about? Do they think that F should go into Assisted Living, instead of exhausting you? Why are you providing services (probably cooking, cleaning and accommodation) to your step-daughter ‘who does nothing’?
What happens if your health fails? Will your partner and sD take over your work? Probably not! What is the point of waiting for your health to fail before you look at other ways to help the situation? Some people need the ‘justification’ of no alternative before they are willing to quit an impossible task. The end result is the same, but you health has been ruined in the meantime.
When someone says partner, I assume there is no marriage. How long have you been with partner. Dad meaning your Dad or partner. Step-daughter (partners daughter) does she live with you.
Just an opinion, if Dad is your Dad I think I would just take him and leave. Partner has his daughter. If Dad is partners Dad, I would just leave. I have no idea how you can put up with this and now ur health is involved.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Are you two married?
How long have you been together?
How old are you, and how old is partner?
What is the physical and mental difficulties that dictate your partner needs you to be his caregiver?
How old is the partner's daughter and does she live with you.
Now on to Dad:
Does Dad live with you?
You say in profile Dad is 87 and mobility is limited. How limited is it? How is his mental capacity? It seems he lives with you. Why does he live with you and how long has that been the case?
You say you are worn out and that you yourself are now "falling" (in your profile). Why are you falling? Have you been to your doctor about these falls? What has your doctor said about these falls?
Who works? Who supports this family, or rather how is it financially supported?
Without a good deal more information we cannot tell how you might get some help, nor what help you want to have or exactly WHAT you need help WITH.
You are propping up not just your father, but also your partner and your step-daughter. They have arguments with you all the time. What are the arguments about? Do they think that F should go into Assisted Living, instead of exhausting you? Why are you providing services (probably cooking, cleaning and accommodation) to your step-daughter ‘who does nothing’?
What happens if your health fails? Will your partner and sD take over your work? Probably not! What is the point of waiting for your health to fail before you look at other ways to help the situation? Some people need the ‘justification’ of no alternative before they are willing to quit an impossible task. The end result is the same, but you health has been ruined in the meantime.
Is this one genuine way to look at the situation?
What state do you live in?
Just an opinion, if Dad is your Dad I think I would just take him and leave. Partner has his daughter. If Dad is partners Dad, I would just leave. I have no idea how you can put up with this and now ur health is involved.