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Your dad could have an evaluation by the department of motor vehicles in your state to see if he still qualifies to be a licensed driver. If he doesn't pass then it isn't YOU that has to be the bad guy/gal.
If he won't give you the keys and you know he shouldn't be driving.....take them. Have the car towed to another location. If you and your family all agree that Dad can't drive anymore and that his needs can be taken care of by someone else providing transportation then there isn't any real reason to keep the car.
If he is a danger to himself or to others you'll know when the time is right to have an intervention. Your dad isn't going to like that one bit. Driving is one of those independence items that nobody wants to give up.
My grandma still has her car sitting out front of the house. I'd give you a million dollars right now if she could get to the car, get inside, put the key in the ignition, and remember how to put it in gear....but she still wants to drive. She can't remember how to do it, but she remembers the feeling of independence and the wind in her hair.
I hid my mom's keys, but she found them and tried to bite me when I tried to take them from her. I called my brother who came over and disconnected the battery cable and distributor cap, until such time as she had her appointment at the Bureau of Motor Vehicles. We obtained two doctor statements stating she should not be driving, and sent them to the state. They finally summoned her to take a written test and a driving test, both of which she failed.
In most states, anyone can anonymously request that an elderly driver be called in for retesting, as was mentioned before, this way it isn't you that is the bad guy. Check with his local DMV
Call or visit your state dept of motor vehicles to request that your dad be called in for retesting. Please do not hesitate to do this. He is a great danger to himself and innocent people in the other vehicles. Do not expect him to understand your actions nor to cooperate willingly. But, that's life. Your responsibility is to the unsuspecting innocent people on the roadways with him.
Your Dad's physician can allert the DMV to medical problems and they will handle. This is the case in Georgia but it may be different in your State but it's worth a try.
Driving safety is one of the biggest concerns that families face as their parent ages. As a social worker who specializes in geriatrics I’d advise you to remember that it’s very emotional for someone to give up their car keys. You may want to speak with your father’s doctor or a social worker like the ones at Care.com to plan or mediate the conversation with your father. The National Parkinson’s Foundation has also been a great resource for others who have had to have that difficult conversation with their parent about no longer driving. Good luck in helping your father transition from driving to using other means of transportation. Sincerely, Carol
This happened to an elderly friend of mine that i was caring for. While he was napping we took his keys and replced them with other keys to whatever. He didn't seem upset that he could sit in his vehicle but, could not start it. After I offered to take him to his appts. and go to the park every weekend for lunch , he decided I was his taxi driver and did not want to drive....''TOO MANY CRAZY DRIVERS OUT THERE'' he would tell me.
Okay guys, we're in year two, the 10-20K stretch, and we just witnessed a seemingly small but profoundly important success by Ladeeda. What d'ya say we start issuing an annual award? (With the blessings of the Captain, of course) We could go by most stars given over the year, or just a flat nominee/most votes thing, or catagories, or something.
Remember "Tough Love" with our kids? Treat him the same way. Take the keys away from him before somebody gets killed! Then take the car and park it at your house or a friends house or storage. Tell him you, or other siblings, will run his errands once or twice a week and for him to make a list of what he needs. I know it's a hassle, but at least you can pick the times to run his errands and still have an alive Father!
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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If he won't give you the keys and you know he shouldn't be driving.....take them. Have the car towed to another location. If you and your family all agree that Dad can't drive anymore and that his needs can be taken care of by someone else providing transportation then there isn't any real reason to keep the car.
If he is a danger to himself or to others you'll know when the time is right to have an intervention. Your dad isn't going to like that one bit. Driving is one of those independence items that nobody wants to give up.
My grandma still has her car sitting out front of the house. I'd give you a million dollars right now if she could get to the car, get inside, put the key in the ignition, and remember how to put it in gear....but she still wants to drive. She can't remember how to do it, but she remembers the feeling of independence and the wind in her hair.
Sincerely,
Carol
We could go by most stars given over the year, or just a flat nominee/most votes thing, or catagories, or something.
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