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I was told no but, it seems different with my MiL. She can't live on her own, she can't do anything for herself, she doesn't "qualify" for NH or 24 7 nursing care, which I think she needs as I have a brain tumor.
Lostinthemix, one thing to try is to have Mom-in-law checked for an Urinary Tract Infection... as such an inflection in an older person can make them pretty mean and totally out of character.
Mom-in-law can be tested by her primary doctor or even at an Urgent Care. Antibiotics usually cure the infection.
Hopefully this is the situation, and thankfully it can be fixed.
Why does she not qualify for a nursing home or 24/7 care. Asking because its hard to give alternatives if its because she has money.
I was told with dementia by a doctor, that nice will be nice. Mean will be mean. Nice and then mean...were always mean just covered it up well. Even the nice ones have their mean times but not all the time. If this is a new symptom, then a check for a UTI is needed.
With you health problems, maybe its time for an AL or nursing facility. Stress cannot be helping.
Good of you to care for your mother in law, but I know it can be hard dealing with a mean personality. Being a full time caregiver is no easy task. Having to deal with mean person adds to the caregiver's frustrations.
I wonder if this change in personality can be due to any new medications. Or possibly is she deteriorating further due to heart disease, high blood pressure, cholesterol, diabetes, depression, lack of social connection. I know its like trying to find a needle in a haystack, but hopefully with the help of a doctor you can find out why her personality has changed so much.
My father had heart failure in the end. All his health issues were taking a toll. Its hard when your body is failing you.
She does have a verified by the hospital bladder infection. Currently on antibiotics for that.
Not much money, but apparently too much to qualify for 24 7 in home care, and not far enough along (she can still eat and drink and is mobile) to be placed in a nursing facility.
I wish her family could come together and see eye to eye that everyone needs to do what is best for her at this point in time. I have never been a foot dragger. But I am seeing it.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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Mom-in-law can be tested by her primary doctor or even at an Urgent Care. Antibiotics usually cure the infection.
Hopefully this is the situation, and thankfully it can be fixed.
I was told with dementia by a doctor, that nice will be nice. Mean will be mean. Nice and then mean...were always mean just covered it up well. Even the nice ones have their mean times but not all the time. If this is a new symptom, then a check for a UTI is needed.
With you health problems, maybe its time for an AL or nursing facility. Stress cannot be helping.
Good of you to care for your mother in law, but I know it can be hard dealing with a mean personality. Being a full time caregiver is no easy task. Having to deal with mean person adds to the caregiver's frustrations.
I wonder if this change in personality can be due to any new medications. Or possibly is she deteriorating further due to heart disease, high blood pressure, cholesterol, diabetes, depression, lack of social connection. I know its like trying to find a needle in a haystack, but hopefully with the help of a doctor you can find out why her personality has changed so much.
My father had heart failure in the end. All his health issues were taking a toll. Its hard when your body is failing you.
Thinking of you.
Not much money, but apparently too much to qualify for 24 7 in home care, and not far enough along (she can still eat and drink and is mobile) to be placed in a nursing facility.
I wish her family could come together and see eye to eye that everyone needs to do what is best for her at this point in time. I have never been a foot dragger. But I am seeing it.