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queenbee, I love my parents dearly, but I know that feeling of being resentful and angry. When my parents were my age, they were enjoying their retirement, lot of travel, dining out, etc. They never needed to be Caregivers to their own parents so they don't understand the stress they are putting me under.

I still work, I do it for my own sanity, and it is like a mini vacation every day. It's about the only time they are not on my mind. And I am around a building of super nice people from all walks of life. It's so nice to laugh once in awhile :)
My Dad had mentioned to me that I should retire to help them more.... I asked my Dad if he had retired to care for his parents.... he said *no*, and he never asked me that question me again.

I had to go to therapy to deal with this stress, even though my parents aren't under my roof, nor I under their roof. I was still their extension to the outside world, thus a lot of driving them here and there. My doctor told me that my parents had made their choice to remain in their large house, therefore my parents need to own up to the responsibly that comes with owning such a home.... and I remind them of their *choice* any time they ask to go somewhere.... "gee, Mom & Dad, if you had moved to Ashby Ponds retirement community they have free transportation to the stores and doctor offices". Or if Dad says he's bored... "gee, Dad, if you had moved to Ashby Ponds you could be enjoying the indoor swimming pool or the workshop or dining at one of their restaurants or go out for a nice walk, but you and Mom made the choice to keep living in this house". By the way, I had to cut my driving by 90% as the panic attacks became too great.

Gosh, I should be Christmas shopping, but the spirit of the holidays left a couple of years ago :(
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I completely understand. I am 58 yrs. old and was 49 yrs. when I moved in with my mother. She made all of us children promise to never put her in a nursing home. We did, but neither my sister or brother take care of her .I have been handicapped all of my life and she or somebody else had to watch and be with me everywhere I went, ( I had epilepsy). I even worked a job with her at her beauty shop. I now am well, and I've always wanted to drive and be on my own. This has been my dream. I live with her out in the country where theirs nothing to do around here. So when others advise me to get out and go somewhere , I ask where and they don't know either. Also, I feel somewhat uneasy going somewhere by myself because I haven't really gone out without someone being with me. I don't have any children and have only my sister and brother with only 1 nephew. I feel completely alone. I was always around people, especially at the beauty shop. We know longer have it or the people we knew, because of financial reasons and mother building up here. I feel like we are siamease twins.She gives me no space even now. I want to get on with my life but can't seem to. Life only comes around once and it won't be long and I will be old too. I know we have to make everyday count but how ? I resent her for not realizing what I try to tell her about it is time to live my dream. She plays mad a lot and has no feelings for me having a new life and wanting to be happy. She says she does not understand why I am not happy she has done so much for me and she has. She is becoming forgetful and her health is going down . She is 82 yrs. I desperately want out, but do not know how? I too, need answers and please pray for me as well. Thank You.
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I think my advice would be to see if there isn't some safe, caring home or assisted living center where you could place your mom--some place close by so that you could visit her, but still have a life of your own. That is what I find myself considering for my mom. She also is very dear, sweet, and cooperative, but until you live with a person who has dementia, you have no idea of the toll it takes on on your own life and your spouse's!

I devoted 8 years of my life traveling back and forth across the country to care for my parents when emergencies came up, and finally 2 years ago,had them both move in with my husband and me. My father passed away one year ago, and since then I have been responsible for my mom's total care.

I am 68, and my husband retired a year ago. I want some time to spend with him traveling and enjoying whatever time we have left. I feel guilty for wanting to get my mom out of our house, but I am beginning to feel resentful and angry, and I don't want to feel that way about my dear mom so I think the time has come to find a place of her own for her.
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Thank you all for sharing your experiences and methods of coping. This whole post has helped me to realize I'm not the only one going through this experience. I'm 80 years old and caring for my 87 yr old husband who has Alzheimer's and had a stroke about a year ago which weakened his left leg to the point he cannot walk without a walker, and then only shakily and for a short distance. I am still full of life, healthy and was very involved with volunteer work and with my huge family of 6 kids, 6 in-law kids, 12 grands and 12 great-grands. Now I've had to quit the volunteer work and can't go out often to be with anyone in the family. Some of the kids live near us but they all work and have their own chores to do on weekends. They help out often, but only for a few hours at a time so I can do necessary shopping and med. appointments. I miss the casual lifestyle we've lived for nearly 60 years...coming & going as I pleased, hubby going on day or week long golf and fishing trips, being able to go off alone for a week to visit kids far away, roaming the mall occasionally with a girl friend, out to lunch with friends, church circle meetings, etc. I admit I have bitter moments, but when I think back on the fabulous times we've had on cruises and trips and how secure we've always been raising out family, I can only be grateful. I know this isn't going to help anyone, but I just needed to say it. Thanks for listening and keep sharing your methods of coping.
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Hi tallman - I know exactly what you are talking about. I have been taking care of 93 year old father for two years. I just turned 60 and had a hatd time because i feel life will be passed by me when he goes. He wont have any help so its been 24/7 for two years. I lost my job my home everything. This is not what i spent my life working for. He was a mean abusive father and he is a mean abusive old man. When you are all alone, friends have dumped you long ago it is hard to even care enough to do routine things. A few months ago one of his doctors looked at me and asked if i was ok. No one asks about me so i thought i heard wrong. He said he was worried and pushed me to get a therspist for me. I sincerely advise that just having someone in your corner. I also picked two afternoons a week when i go to do volunteer work. I am rigid about this because i feel like im slipping away. I dont care how many rages, tricks and shenaigans my dad does i go. I would suggest you do something for yourself and insist. Otherwise its too hard and im not sure its enough but at least i get to talk to others and get away. It would be nice to have people to be supportive of me but that doesnt seem possible. Good luck.
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I wish I had an answer for you. I am just beginning my life as a care giver for my husband who has dementia. He can take care of his basic needs and do a few simple chores, for which I am grateful. He isn't sure he recognizes me even though we have been married for 55 years. The most difficult part is the fact that all decisions are for me to make and I have no one to bounce ideas off of, but this is my life and I must accept it. I don't have help at this time because he is aware enough to be upset if I am not here. I'm not sure what the future holds, but then, none of us do. My bet to you. I hope you can find some time for yourself.
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I know how you feel..... 7 years ago someone said to be careful ... "She'll suck the life out of you".... I know know what they meant... When my mother moved in with us I told her I would not be her 24/7 playmate. She forgets many things included not being her 24/7 playmate.. now she's telling everyone I don't take her any where and that is why she shreds paper and coupons all over the house with no where to go. The coupons are things I would not buy and she hoards them so no one can use them.... she needs help for daily routines and it is getting in the way of my own marriage because my husband is retired now and we always planned to travel....
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You have not lost your life yet...
Do not let your business slip away unless you can afford to support yourself without it,
It may be time to call in a caregiver so that you can have time to do your work if it is necessary for you to have to live and keep the roof over your head.

I was burnt out after many years of caregiving ,but in a different situation, for several family members who lived in the state but not in my home.
I over did everything for them, reduced my work hours ( I have a small business_) was there for every need, dr appt. purchasing equipment, emotional support, food preparation, coordinating of care on and on...
the end result was that I ended up with health issues, major ones...

If you can, keep your strength and health. Get someone in there now to help you. Get a housekeeper to clean your home, and get out with your friends
at least once a week.

When my caregiving was no longer needed, I was the one who was ill and now am having difficulty "getting my life back".
Ps I live up north in CT, close to NY..the winters are beautiful and brutal...BRUTAL..and heating costs are exhorbitant.. and the
property taxes are ridiculous. In a town right next to us the mill rate is 40%.
New York and New Jersey are the only states with higher property taxes.
Look into it before you move..most of us up here at retirement are moving south!
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I used to say, "I have no life," since I began living with and caring for my 93 year-old mom with dementia. I know how you feel. I am single, no kids, and gave up my self-employment to care for her. I, too, wanted to relocate, and struggled with that, but I decided that she would have to adapt to my life, too, as I have to hers. This year, I sold her home, and moved us to the South, and it was the smartest thing I could have done. I'm happier, living where I want to be, and have found in-home help a couple of days a week, that doesn't charge too much. I found a volunteer who comes one day, for two hours, so I can go out and live my life a bit. It's getting better everyday, and it will for you, too. My advice, and I'm taking it myself, is to decide what's good for you, and do it. There's guilt at first, but after a while, when you find yourself happier, that fades. Blessings to you on this journey.
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One thing with caring for one parent(s), don't forget your own doctor appointments. I know, if you see one more doctor's waiting room you will scream :P I was so busy driving my parents all over the place I forgot about me.

Now I am paying the price... I have a medical condition that requires surgery and who knows how long I will be recouping. Now, if I had paid attention and went to my OWN doctors, this medical issue could have been caught a lot sooner and chances are I wouldn't need the surgery.

Of course, my Dad says "but who will drive us?" and "oh, when can you schedule an eye doctor appointment for us?"..... time to bang my head against the wall, now where did I put that helmet.

Believe me, I am going to milk this time off to the tenth degree.
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I feel the same way.... I left my home and my adult daughter and moved in with my parents to care for my father who was dying. After he passed I made the decision that it would be better for my Mother to remain in her home so I move in completely to take care of her. That was 3 years and several care takers ago. Care takers are with my mother while I'm at work, I work full time, although they don't seem to last very long they all burn out for one reason or another. I have 3 siblings non of which will take any responsibility or assist in caring for our mother which would allow me to have a life. They tried at the beginning, they even acknowledge how very difficult it is, but they are not willing to give up their weekends. I try not to discuss it too much because I feel like it's just complaining and I really don't want to complain about caring for my mother. However I really do wish that I had time for a life, time for me maybe a special someone. i do worry that I will never have time to find that special someone in my life and will end up dying alone.
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This all sounds very familiar. My friends say I have given up my life, but by taking care of my mother, and my stepfather and partner while they were still alive, I feel as if I were doing what I needed to do. Now I do my best to include my mother in activities that we both enjoy because I cannot leave her alone: lunch with friends, Quaker meetings, swimming, the symphony, opera, theater, yoga classes and traveling. Hard to budget for it but it seems important to get out and do things other than the endless doctor's and hospital visits. I tell her about my work, and include her when I travel for business. I'm trying to enrich our home environment with good food, interesting films, Scrabble games, letter writing and reading aloud. We just started reading Harry Potter, and she loves it. Not sure how much longer I can do all this or how much longer she will enjoy it, but for now, it's worth it, and I feel that I am doing all I can to make our time together as good as I can. Of course I am depressed, overwhelmed, forgetful and always behind on things too, but I try to keep things cheerful and upbeat as best I can. And after about 15 years of constant bad health, pain and injury, my dear mother is finally feeling fatigued and quite elderly but mostly healthy and happy, so we are grateful for the break.
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Tallman - I am a 56 yo man in the same position as you. My mother also moved in and she is 84 years old with Alzheimer's. I also work a full-time job, which luckily I can do remotely through telecommuting thank God. I have been struggling with the same issues as you. I am continuing to try to keep things moving, I have her on Seroquel now which thankfully is now helping to manage her AD's agitation better. But at the end of the day, Tallman, I too keep feeling like I am on the edge of burnout and depression. Like you, I have been feeling the weight of the hopeless of our situation. I try to manage this by staying busy, keep moving forward, one foot in front of the other. But yeah it is is tough. I have started trying the Nature Made SAM-e Complete 400mg supplements to help me manage depression. I don't know. Are they working? Maybe. I do seem to feel a little less hopeless some days. But this cruel Alzheimer's Disease is such a soul crushing experience. There are days I wish my sister and my brothers would help. And there are days I am so glad their hearts are not being broken as they see our mother suffer. You might want to try the SAM-E. But I am really writing to let you know there are other men, and other sons exactly in your same position. They don't say much about us.
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I am 80 and have been full care giver for my 99 yr old 'wheelchair bound', Aunt for the past 5 years, as well as my Husband who was also in a wheelchair for almost a year, until he passed in June. There are no relatives available in Fla to help me. I felt exactly as you do. Fortunately my Dr. recognized my depression and began treating me and giving me 'places' to call for options. I learned about 'Respite care', They give as much or as little care as the person needs. I found a wonderful place that she could go for a month, Like a resort type setting, so I was able to 'take my husband HOME to Mich for burial in our Family Plot'. It was so uplifting to have all my children and Family around and relax and heal and not worry. We are planning a month 'Vacation' for both of us again in 2015. Plus, she is going for a 'week' respite, two more times a year. This is giving me something positive to look forward to and I am starting to feel happier again. There are places that will do this as well as licensed people who will come and stay in the home 24/7 so you can get away. I had been looking forward to traveling, and now I can do a bit.

Please do not give up. Get information and take your Dr.s advice on stress medication. It has really helped me. I thought my life was over, since I am sure my Aunt is going to live till 110 and by that time I'll be over 90 myself.
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Hmmm....I can sooooo relate. Sometimes I feel like I'm going to lose my mind. I want this period of my life to be over...and it makes me sad to think that my mother has to die before this ends...and wondering what will be left of me?? It does wear me out physically and mentally...and there is no energy to do anything for myself. My mother was the best mother...and when I get mad at her, I feel terrible. No one understands unless they've walked in these shoes. I've given up trying to reach out to others...they don't understand...and always so the wrong thing...which makes me angry. Oh well...thank god for the good days! Just reading your post made me feel like I'm NOT alone. Hope something works out for you!
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Hi everyone,

I have no new ideas to add here because all of the suggestions have been so great. I just want to say that I feel this situation and have witnessed it. Tallman, you have to get a life for yourself in all of this--right where you are or put your mom in a NH or whatever. Please, please take the suggestions that have been made here. Get help, get the right meds for your mom and for you, take time for the business, take time for you!!!!!!!!!!!

Big hug!
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Prayer.
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I took care of my mother for ten years in my home. It was easy and fun at first. One day, I realized I never left the house without her unless going to work. My social life completely disappeared. My home became "her" home. It had to be her furniture, her dishes, her food likes and dislikes. At age 93, her health has mostly thrived while her dementia worsened. My health has failed to the point I took early retirement, suffer constant pain and struggle to walk with a cane or walker. Siblings won't help. They have vacations and busy active retirements to enjoy. They rarely even call her, let alone visit. Some far away grandchildren visit when they can. Finally reached my limit after she began wandering and ransacking the house and going days without sleep. Her doctors and a wonderful nurse case manager helped me see through the hopelessness. She is now in a great assisted living. She rages and demands my constant presence there but I limit visits to 1 or 2 days a week. She refuses to participate in any activities or entertainment at the place. Refuses meals and baths often. But I have stepped way back and let the very competent staff deal with her. I am actively reclaiming my life and attending to my own health. Feel like I have climbed out of a dark bottomless pit. I finally learned that "I will always take care of you" cannot always be done without help. I strongly urge downtrodden fellow care givers take back their lives.
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I have just found this site and I am overwhelmed with gratitude. I understand. I am 56 and lost my Dad 2 years ago and care for my Mom. She still lives independently but I am the only sibling. Lost my sister to Leukemia 15 years ago. My Mom has always been demanding and controlling. I feel alone and have seek helped through counseling and antidepressant. It has helped make things tolerable. Please keep some help for your depression and my counselor advised me to not slwsys tell my Mom what I'm doing....example going to mivie or dinner, I say Im working so I can steal a few hours. I've started walking everday to releive stress. It is very hard! No one understands unless they are living it. Find some peace for yourself. Trust your own instincts to do what will imorove your life. My mom suffers from dementia and a personality disorder so I've stopped trying to fix her and just take one day at a time and feel less guilty for enjoying life a little. Getting outdoors has helped more than anything. Breathe!! Stay strong!
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I have that same feeling Im 57 and taking care of my 90 year old father, My brothers and sister have lives but I don't. I feel guilty for feeling this way and then my sister says this is your life now........... feeling doomed
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When we made the promises to our parents that they would never be put in a nursing home/assisted living facility, they were still in relatively good health. We had no idea how frail they would become nor the demands that would be put on us. I had no option but to keep working for my small retirement.

As her dementia and physical disabilities became more severe, one of her doctors pulled me aside and told me that I could not take care of her by myself any more. I was on Lexapro just to handle the stress of working full time and taking care of mom and the house and my husband. That doctor saved my sanity.

I placed my mother in the best assisted living facility in our local area. It was hard, but it lifted a huge burden off my shoulders. For two and a half years, I was still running medications and supplies to her. But I started to put myself back together. Six months ago, mother was placed in Hospice Comfort Care. I am totally free to be me again! I have been off Lexapro for six months and have never felt better. I retire in two weeks, and my husband and my daughters have their wife/mother back.

Lesson learned: One person cannot provide the care for an elderly dementia patient 24/7 by themselves. At first I felt guilty for breaking the promise, but then again who would have thought that mother would live to 97 and live with me for 26 years.

Future: No plans to move in with any of my daughters. Husband and I will pick out a nice facility when I do not want to clean house or do yard work anymore.

Suggestion for you: Take charge of your life.
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tallman, it seems to me you are creating barriers for yourself. You state that you can't move north because “the climate would not be good for her”. Well, millions of elders live in the northern USA and Canada, so unless she is spending all her days out in the garden I really can't see the reason she couldn't adapt to a different climate. You also say “having her with me in a larger city would be intolerable”. In what way? I guess it really depends where your mom is at in her life right now. There comes a time when our elders become pretty isolated.....friends have died, they no longer leave the house except for doctors appointments etc. If she is at that point then her life in her own home as she once lived is already irrevocably altered, and you should consider making the changes that make sense for you now.
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For nearly 4 years now, I've been caring for my stroke-survivor husband, who lost significant abilities both physically and mentally. For the past year, I've also been responsible for my mother and aunt, ages 85 and 88 respectively, who share an apartment in a retirement community across town. Neither can drive anymore, my mother suffers from vascular-related memory loss and my aunt is legally blind. So, for 3 people, I manage meds, doctor appointments, insurance/medicare issues, etc. Until a few months ago, I continued to work, albeit from home (thank God for an understanding employer!). I totally identify with that "lost my life" feeling - I loved my job, traveled a lot on business, had a great life. I think that when one becomes a caregiver, the sense of loss is similar to the grief process, and will go thru several stages (I've been thru them and repeated a few); it's hard, very hard, to work thru the anger, resentment, reconcile those feelings with the love we have for our care-receivers, and get to a place somewhere near acceptance. I've found my faith a major help. I've found that carving out some "me time" is helpful as well, tho it can be difficult. My husband sleeps late, so I rise early and have time for exercise (that's important!) and devotions. Also, it's CRUCIAL to focus on the moment - make yourself really see that lovely sunrise or sunset, appreciate the sound of the birds, or whatever. Don't allow yourself to focus on the long-term - it's just too depressing; focus on what you can enjoy today, right this minute. Try to cultivate an "attitude of gratitude": Even the most reluctant caregiver can be grateful for a roof over his/her head, for sufficient food, clean water, even just a comfortable chair, a hot cup of coffee, a tasty bowl of ice cream. And know that your efforts are making the world a better place for at least one person.
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TryingToCope, you made your mother an impossible promise for one person to fulfill and you are paying the price for it not because you are weak, but because it is impossible for one person to give 24/7 care without burning out like you are doing. Many caregivers in your situation do not live as long as the person they are caring for and I would not want that to happen to you. Does your mother have any assets which would pay for some home health care? Would your mother qualify for medicaid? 48 years old is very young to not be able to work full time for it will have a negative impact on your own retirement and you need to think about that as well. Do you have Durable and Medical POA for your mother? If not, then you need to get them. Take some steps to take care of you or your mother will not have anyone to take care or advocate for her. I don't think your mother would want you or any of her children to destroy ones life in her old age.
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I can relate tallman, I feel much the same way. I am 48 y/o with no children and I have been caring for my 85 yo mom for over 4 years - since my dad passed. For the first 3 1/2 years it was live out - mom lived in a senior living center and I took her on weekends and during the week I was on the phone with her 4 - 6 times a day trying to keep her grounded in the world. As the dementia progressed it was getting too hard on me to handle it over the phone and with weekend visits (2 hours round trip every time I picked her up and brought her home) so I moved her in here. I too am self-employed and work from home which is the "excuse" used by my siblings why it was so much easier for me than for them (who work traditional jobs) and none of them get the fact that being self-employed simply means that when I do not work there is no money coming in. My care for her both live out and live in, has substantially cut into my work time and my ability to make my living. Now that mom lives here she contributes to the finances, which is a help on the short term - but not having the chance to build my business hurts on the long-term and causes resentment in me that I don't like and don't know what to do with. I always promised my mother that "with 7 children she would never be put in a nursing home" what I didn't realize is it would fall entirely on me to make sure that didn't happen. I get little or no help from siblings and haven't had much luck finding paid caregivers. I live in an extremely rural area and doing anything (even grocery shopping) takes half of the day. I use the Internet as my primary form of shopping now and found this board in hopes of having an online support group because I have very little support in the real world. This is the hardest thing I have ever done and it is taking a toll on my emotional and physical health as well.
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I would like to share three things that helped me. (1) I convinced my mother's doctor that she needed a higher dosage of Prozac than she was taking at that time; (2) I went to caregiver counseling, which was offered for free through the county's Office on Aging; and (3) I pray every day for God to help me through this. Thanks to these three things, Mom is happier and I am dealing with being a caregiver better than I did before. Things are far from perfect, but the situation is now bearable. I hope one or all of these things might help you, too.
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I am 62 and have given the last seven years of my life to my mother. I live in her home and have felt like Cinderella. My mother has a lot of old anger from life events she has never wanted to deal with up front, and she is very depressed. I also work a full-time job, so I would come home to what became another full-time job. NO time for me to unwind and regroup after work. I became very burned out, dealing with the physical and, even more, emotional demands. Finally, Mom's health led to hospice care, and now she is in a very nice home. What I want to share is that there is help out there through various agencies. There are people who will volunteer to help out for a few hours a week. It takes a little time to search for these opportunities (e.g., through state agencies, friends of friends, neighbors, etc.), but it is worth the time. Put out the request everywhere you can think of and let the answers come back. You are worth it! Somewhere you will find someone to offer even a few hours. Then go do something fun for yourself!
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Hey Tallman,
I can certainly relate to what you describe. I am almost in the exact same situation, except I'm living with both of my parents and I am the DPOA for a cousin with dementia and lots of medical issues, who's in a Memory Care unit.

Sometimes it seems like there is no way out. I am also self employed. The financial strain is huge. I will relate what I have found.

If you can get your mom interested or involved in some other outside interests if possible. Can she attend church or activities at a senior center? If they have friends they can chat with on the phone every day, it makes them happier and gives them a reason to look forward to things. That helps.

Can you arrange for someone from a church or civic group to come and visit her once a week? Even though you care, I think it helps them to know that others are thinking of them too.

Can you get involved with your mom's medical care. I have googled things and taken my ideas to my mom's doctor and he agreed. He told her that I really was on top of things! She may resent it a little, but she knows I care and that makes her feel good. This can boost her confidence.

Try to get out yourself. Make plans with your own friends. Try to look up some friends from years ago and see if you can get together for a beer or coffee. Sometimes when we talk to others our age, only then do we realize how much worse offers have it. Many are undergoing cancer treatments or divorces. I have it rough, but not as rough as some do.

Right now I'm trying to locate a support group for the family members of caregivers. They meet during the day, so I have to make arrangements for that since I normally work during the day.

And come here for support. There are some very wise and caring people on this site. I have learned so much.
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Congratulations on taking the first step and asking for help. I would recommend maybe getting companion care a couple days a weeks or maybe even adult day care which would allow you to focus on your business and yourself a little more. Many assisted living facilities will allow you to have your mom stay there for a respite weekend or a week. Who knows she might even like it. It is very important to be full in yourself. It sounds like you need some time for yourself. When my child was young and went to preschool for three days a week, I had older family members who would say that someone else was raising my child. That could not be further from the truth. Just like you are caring for your mom, sometimes getting professional assistance in some form allows you to share some of the responsibility of her care so when you are with your Mom you are able to uplift her as well as feeling better yourself. You care asking for help here, I think your next best step is to ask for help in the community, at Church, call your local aging services, call a local geriatric care manager. I give free advice over the phone and at community senior meetings all the time to caregivers who can not afford our services. Even calling a local Elder Law Attorney can help you see more options. Get connected in your local community and you will find a solution that works for you.
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I do not get a lot of these answers if you love the individual "family member" you will do anything for them. As for the one who said take a class or get out LOL you do not get it or you are only doing this part time!
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