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My heart goes out to you. I experienced the same thing with my father who did not want to be poked or prodded any more. He didn't have cancer, but had numerous other health issues and just decided he was done. Failure to thrive, is a difficult thing to come to grips with when you are having to watch a loved one make that decision. I had a huge agrument with him a few months before as my anger, frustration, fear and grief came boiling over. We didn't talk for three weeks as I felt he was being stubborn and selfish and felt he just was 'giving up" on ME/US. I had to come to understand that he was fully in charge of his own life, much as what he taught me throughout my entire life, and responsible and accountable for making that decision on his own. I am so glad I had that epiphany and it helped me to get past what was my own grief and fear and support him, love him and be with him through it all. It was difficult, heart wrenching and so sad, but it was also a moment in my life when I felt that as a daughter it was the greatest gift I could give him. He passed with his grandchildren surrounding him and the love at that moment was tangible. Sometimes, dying with dignity and on your own terms is a choice to be made that is both individual and cannot/should not be dictated. Contact your local hospice agency. They have alot of reading materials that will help you understand the process and what to expect. It helped me greatly to be prepared and accept the inevitable. I wish you peace and comfort through your journey together.
I concur... respect his wishes. Aside... did you know that statistically that people who chose no care for cancer live longer and better quality of life than those who do? I know a woman who was given 6 mos to live if she did nothing. That was her choice and she lived an additional 6 yrs. She got on with the business of living and did not give the disease her power. But again the real point is that it is his life and he has a right to chose for himself. Please do not take this personal. It is not about you.
cndsynz~sharing your personal experience is one thing but you slammed the medical profession with untruths. These are people who are serving their communities in dedication, compassion, and dignity. They have worked hard for their educations, building their professional reputations on truth. You my dear are the one who was rude and I agree...take your misinformation somewhere else!
cndsynz......sharynmarie is correct in that no one here is interested in the wonderful, curative "super treatment" that you are touting. It's frightening to know there are lonely people out there who don't have a strong support system around them and might believe these false claims! And when you know what you are talking about you might be a bit more believable....for your information no one paid for my education or my husbands, except ourselves and hard work! Unfortunately efforts have not advanced in the world of medicine to the point where there are other definitive cures for cancer other than chemo, radiation or death. Sure, everyone should have the option of weighing the best treatment for themselves........but that is only a treatment recognized by the medical community, and not one tossed out there by someone who is hoping to make millions from the sale of a book. You aren't helping anyone here.....so why don't you take your misinformation somewhere else?
MMS is promoted as a cure for HIV, malaria, hepatitis viruses, the H1N1 flu virus, common colds, acne, cancer, and more. There is no clinical evidence for any of these claims, which come only from anecdotal reports and Humble's book.[3][4] In January 2010, The Sydney Morning Herald reported that one vendor admitted that they do not repeat any of Humble's claims in writing to circumvent regulations against using it as a medicine.[5] Sellers sometimes describe MMS as a water purifier so as to circumvent medical regulations.[6]
When citric acid or other food acid is used to "activate" MMS as described in its instructions,[7] the mixture produces chlorine dioxide, a potent oxidizing agent used in water treatment and in bleaching.[8] The director of the New South Wales Poisons Information Centre has stated that using the product is "a bit like drinking concentrated bleach" and that users have displayed symptoms consistent with corrosive injuries, such as vomiting, stomach pains, and diarrhea.[9] Sodium chlorite, the main constituent of MMS, is a toxic chemical[10][11] that can cause fatal kidney failure.[12] Taken from Wikipedia............................
I do not see the wisdom of advocating something that might harm a person or keep them from receiving appropriate treatment for their disease. Thorough research should be done before touting a "cure" that is nothing more than a scam.
Jim Humble is "bishop" in a church where, he explains, "We do not dictate that anyone believe any particular thing." Laughing my butt off. If his science makes as much sense as his theology, then any kind of mineral water should cure you.
You can get a membership card for his church for $10. And this is from his newsletter: "If you wish, you will receive a pastor’s certificate and you will have the legal right to use Reverend in front of your name. It will be legal for you to not pay income tax. You can also receive a certificate to start a chapter of our church right there in your area. You can hand out tracts telling about MMS and our healing and you will no doubt have people come to you for healing. It will be best not to charge for your service, instead ask for donations after they get well, and that usually takes only a few days. Most people will want to donate something when they get well. You will make more money that way than selling the bottles of MMS."
I too have read what Brody C said about no treatment. My dad is 80 and has bladder cancer. The tests and procedures are getting harder on him and every once in a while he'll mention, "I wonder what would happen if I just didn't do anything?" The last procedure just about killed him. If he would choose to forego any more treatment, I would support him, although it would be hard. I agree about letting your dad die with dignity. If he has all of the facts and makes his decision, you need to respect it.
Dolly: Please be supportive of your dad's wishes. If he is at peace with them, then you should be also. If he went through the treatments, he might gain another 3 to 5 years. This tells me that his cancer is more advanced and not curable.
My sister-in-law was diagnosed with colon cancer a couple of years ago. Her prognosis was good, but the location of the tumor, close to the rectum, complected surgery and she has had to have additional surgeries to correct problems that are surgery related and not cancer related. She is just 60 years old now and has a lot to live for, but the course of her treatment has not been easy at all.
Your dad may be remembering what his brother went through many years ago. It could be that current methods to deal with his cancer are much improved today. Still I look at my beloved sil and would just mention that situations can be ongoing and very difficult even with a good prognosis.
Your dad is saying that he would not prefer to fight and undergo more surgeries and chemo just to get maybe another 3 to 5 years. If all those years are going to be taken up with treatment, surgery and complications, I can understand his point of view.
Ultimately, it is his decision. Choices of this nature are very personal. Even if it breaks our hearts, there is so much you can do to honor your dad wishes and be by his side. He will be so grateful to you for supporting him during this time.
Please be sure that you get regular checkups and consistent colonoscopies (sp) over the years ahead. You have a history in your family and you need to be mindful of it.
Sending you love, comfort and compassion, Cattails
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What nonsense! Please go pedal this conspiracy theory elsewhere. We have serious subjects to deal with.
When citric acid or other food acid is used to "activate" MMS as described in its instructions,[7] the mixture produces chlorine dioxide, a potent oxidizing agent used in water treatment and in bleaching.[8] The director of the New South Wales Poisons Information Centre has stated that using the product is "a bit like drinking concentrated bleach" and that users have displayed symptoms consistent with corrosive injuries, such as vomiting, stomach pains, and diarrhea.[9] Sodium chlorite, the main constituent of MMS, is a toxic chemical[10][11] that can cause fatal kidney failure.[12] Taken from Wikipedia............................
I do not see the wisdom of advocating something that might harm a person or keep them from receiving appropriate treatment for their disease. Thorough research should be done before touting a "cure" that is nothing more than a scam.
You can get a membership card for his church for $10. And this is from his newsletter: "If you wish, you will receive a pastor’s certificate and you will have the legal right to use Reverend in front of your name. It will be legal for you to not pay income tax. You can also receive a certificate to start a chapter of our church right there in your area. You can hand out tracts telling about MMS and our healing and you will no doubt have people come to you for healing. It will be best not to charge for your service, instead ask for donations after they get well, and that usually takes only a few days. Most people will want to donate something when they get well. You will make more money that way than selling the bottles of MMS."
Gee, and you won't even have to pay income taxes!
What rubbish.
My sister-in-law was diagnosed with colon cancer a couple of years ago. Her prognosis was good, but the location of the tumor, close to the rectum, complected surgery and she has had to have additional surgeries to correct problems that are surgery related and not cancer related. She is just 60 years old now and has a lot to live for, but the course of her treatment has not been easy at all.
Your dad may be remembering what his brother went through many years ago. It could be that current methods to deal with his cancer are much improved today. Still I look at my beloved sil and would just mention that situations can be ongoing and very difficult even with a good prognosis.
Your dad is saying that he would not prefer to fight and undergo more surgeries and chemo just to get maybe another 3 to 5 years. If all those years are going to be taken up with treatment, surgery and complications, I can understand his point of view.
Ultimately, it is his decision. Choices of this nature are very personal. Even if it breaks our hearts, there is so much you can do to honor your dad wishes and be by his side. He will be so grateful to you for supporting him during this time.
Please be sure that you get regular checkups and consistent colonoscopies (sp) over the years ahead. You have a history in your family and you need to be mindful of it.
Sending you love, comfort and compassion, Cattails
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