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Let me say, as an aging parent, you cannot convince him. A man's home is truly his castle. If you want to help him, hire a housekeeper to come in once a week, or a cook on MWF (leftovers on TuThuSat). Hire a grass cutter once a week. Take him out to dinner on Sundays. Yes, he will complain about them, but he would complain even if it was you. Aggravation keeps them alive.
Pam, I had to chuckle when you wrote "aggravation keeps them alive"... how true that is.
The simplest of things can keep my parents talking for hour on end between themselves. Like if something is out of place in the neighborhood, the stories my parents will come up with, like a truck in a neighbor's driveway.... maybe the neighbor is moving... wonder if the son is moving back home.... did the son lose his job.... maybe the son got divorced.... how will the neighbors see the grandkids.... etc. You get my drift :)
I wholeheartedly approve of trying to help Dad with his loneliness and his depression.
Moving is a pretty drastic solution to those problems. What less dramatic attempts have you made? Is there a senior center he could go to? A senior bowling league to join? A special discount during certain times of the day at a local golf course? Could he volunteer at a library? Get a part time job as a bagger at a lovely grocery store? There must be a lot of things he could do to be around other people than hang out with you all day.
But treating the depression should really come first. People who are depressed tend to isolate themselves. Depression is a real illness and there are real treatment plans for it. I can pretty confidently predict it will not be cured by a move, unless there is also a treatment plan in place. Convincing you dad to see a doctor might be a good use of your time.
Your profile says you are caring for someone with dementia. What is that situation, and how would it relate to Dad's move?
The short answer is you can't. He won't be convinced; you will either need to move in or move him out against his wishes, when that time comes. Or it has to be his idea to start with.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Yes, he will complain about them, but he would complain even if it was you. Aggravation keeps them alive.
The simplest of things can keep my parents talking for hour on end between themselves. Like if something is out of place in the neighborhood, the stories my parents will come up with, like a truck in a neighbor's driveway.... maybe the neighbor is moving... wonder if the son is moving back home.... did the son lose his job.... maybe the son got divorced.... how will the neighbors see the grandkids.... etc. You get my drift :)
Moving is a pretty drastic solution to those problems. What less dramatic attempts have you made? Is there a senior center he could go to? A senior bowling league to join? A special discount during certain times of the day at a local golf course? Could he volunteer at a library? Get a part time job as a bagger at a lovely grocery store? There must be a lot of things he could do to be around other people than hang out with you all day.
But treating the depression should really come first. People who are depressed tend to isolate themselves. Depression is a real illness and there are real treatment plans for it. I can pretty confidently predict it will not be cured by a move, unless there is also a treatment plan in place. Convincing you dad to see a doctor might be a good use of your time.
Your profile says you are caring for someone with dementia. What is that situation, and how would it relate to Dad's move?