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Hello. My 90 year old mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's a little over 7 years ago. She is at home with 24/7 care, is bedridden due to a broken hip last year. She wears diapers and is totally dependent on others for care. She is capable of saying up to 6 to 7 words but mostly she mumbles and can not communicate. My concern is my brother, who is her guardian and lives with her, is in denial about how severe she is. He believes she is doing great, even improving. She sleeps around 17 hours a day now. Even though she can hold her head up, we notice a little difficulty beginning to develop in that area. She still eats well but my brother wakes her up in the morning before she is ready, and as soon as she is fed by an aide, she is back to sleep from maybe like 11 to 3. Anyone have a similar situation or does anyone know anyone with similar symptoms? Can't get a straight answer from my brother.

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My mom has Parkinson’s disease but lots of posters have parents with ALZ so stick around for answers.
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What is it exactly that concerns you? That she sleeps so much? That he wakes her up so she eats? What would you like to see your brother do differently?
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frustratedinny Apr 2021
I wish we can talk openly about our mom and share information. Since he is having difficulty grasping that she is progressing, it is frustrating.
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I feel for your brother and his denial. Will he go for counseling? She is dying and he is in denial and I fear he will fall apart being so unprepared for that reality. Is there anyone who can talk to him?
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frustratedinny Apr 2021
Hello. I am concerned about that as well. He is very religious so I hope that will help. I am honestly very concerned. Thanks for your reply.
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It's probably time to get hospice involved due to the fact that she's bedridden and is sleeping a lot. I'm sure she would qualify for it now, and it would be extra sets of eyes on her as well, as they will have the nurse come once a week to start(more if needed), an aide or aides to come bathe her about twice a week, and they will also supply any and all needed equipment, supplies and medications, all covered 100% under your mom's Medicare. They will be able to educate your brother about what exactly is going on with your mom, and will be a great support for him and the family. So many people wait too late before they take advantage of all that hospice has to offer. Just make sure that you do your homework on the different hospice agencies in your moms area, as they are not all created equal. Wishing you the best.
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frustratedinny Apr 2021
Thank you so much for your advice!
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Thanks, I will
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