After several minor changes to their POA and Will, my parents want to change their Will again (groan). Now, they want to change the percentage that each of 5 kids receive, and add their life-long church. I am wondering if the lawyer is allowed to talk to any of the siblings about the change, or really, the broader question is, how much discussion can a lawyer entertain among the family members. This lawyer is very talkative -!!- and I just hate to think of yet another big lawyer bill.
I do dislike seeing families torn by material things. It is really so unimportant in the whole scheme of things. Your parents should be able to do what they want with their money as long as they are competent to choose and are acting rationally (e.g., not leaving all their money to a dog in Argentina).
For a lawyer to discuss his client's affairs with others, let alone to bill his clients for such discussions, seems really weird (and probably unethical to me.)
Your parents have told you about the change to their will. Might they consider telling the rest of the family also, to lessen the complaints you will have to deal with as the executor?