Mom is 85 years old, she was in the hospital for 11 days, I rescued her and brought her with me. She is getting better, but my blood pressure has gone up, my life has been given fullen to this woman. She feels I owe her for years ago, I am constantly getting her back to health, I am tired. I can't do it anymore.
Texas is a great state to live in for senior services. If you think that you and she should not be living together, there are several good options in the communities around you. You would still be taking care of her, just not in your own home.
Probably most people in the group know how you feel. Most of us probably never imagined that we would be living with our parents at our age!
Spend the time to look for a facility and check her in. Or hire an aid for 8hrs and leave the house. The facility will offer companionship, food and health care for the same cost as the 8hr. aid. When looking at the facility check out the caregivers , they are the backbone of the spirit and care. Sit down and have a dinner there and make sure the meals are carefully planned and edible. Take your time so that the move can be her last.
Good luck.
-SS
I think it's just another form of venting. Poor thing. She and that other one who has a weird interpretation of honoring one's parents may implode eventually.
Shilaflores, we support you in reclaiming your life. Are you going to place her? What is the next step to resolve this, Dear One? We are listening. xo
Anksana-Moon
I know my mom says that because of the disease because my mom was a kind loving woman and wouldn't be that mean under normal conditions.
It is a tough thing to care for an aging person, we all have days we need to vent and cry. Take a deep breathe, vent, and look to see if there are services to help you. Some places have daycare or senior centers where you can have your family member go to give you a break.
Hang in there and vent on her if you need to.
I feel for you. I have been taking care of Mom now for six years, since my Dad passed away. I felt I owed it to Mom as when they both lived with me, I let my own life get in the way. But now I realize I also had to have a life! I am turning 65 and since taking care of them both, have developed my own health problems. Afib possibly related to stress! I have no life of my own anymore, but I won't give up caring for Mom. In answer to someone else here, who's posts I haven't seen. All I can say, is wait till you are in someone elses shoes! My parents put their own parents into nursing homes. This is why I felt the need to keep Mom at home. Sometimes though, it's simply too much for one to bear alone. Hang in there, you have our thoughts and prayers!