The stress of caring for my parents have recently gotten to me, what is the best way to deal with this stress?
Hi there, I am a caregiver for both of my elderly parents and a medical transcription and coding student. My mom recently broke her leg and is in a rehab facility.My dad is also having some problems with dizziness and going to the restroom. He has an appointment with the doctor about it next week. He is 84 and my mother is 75.
I also have had some harassment from that has caused me some problems with some tickets and am on unemployment, so I am having some financial problems and unable to pay my insurance or transport my parents to their doctors appointments. We also have some rude and noisy neighbors that have made it difficult for me to concentrate on school and have slowed me down and added to my already hight stress level. I am also having some menopausal symptoms. Since I am low on money and friends right now, I could use any help or suggestions I can get. Thank you!
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( both at the same time ) and it definitely isn't easy ! If you don't have a relationship with the Lord this would be a good time to start one .He'll put people in your path to help you that you wouldn't even think to ask of.
God bless
If you can stand it, and feel your Mom is receiving good care in her rehab facility, maybe cut back your number of visits to see her to twice weekly, or ask someone else in your family to do the honors of more frequent visits to your Mom while she is in rehab?
Not sure I understand what you are saying about being harassed in some way regarding some tickets.
I admire anyone who, like you, is trying to continue your education in order to do better in your life, and, as someone else said, that is a hard thing to do. I agree that eventually it does pay off and get better for those who persevere.
Hope you can find another job soon, even part-time until you can find a full-time position. It's great that you're sharing. That sometimes helps alleviate some of the stress one feels.
Any senior ride program in your area? They take seniors to medical appointments if booked in advance. The waiting times can be long for pick-up, but it is worth knowing that your Dad can make it to his doctor's appointment. If nothing else, and your Dad is able to afford it, taking a cab to the appointment is a last resort. Before that, I would ask a friend if they would be willing to give Dad and you a ride to the doctor's office.
Good luck!
Maybe call the health department about your parent's inability to get transportation. Sometimes they either know how to make arrangements or can tell you how to get services. In my town there is a senior citizens center. They have a lot of information about how to get elder care... Hope this helps!
Give yourself a hug - you are doing the right things - and while it may seem extremely tough right now - once you finish your schooling things will get better!