This all began when people told me I as burning out and I should take a break..So I went to a good home only for a month. The next thing I know is that my wife is in a memory unit. I didn't like this but I let go. Every time I visited her she begged to go. Well the home wantedto keep her, 10,000 a month, All I saw was that she lonely and Isolated.
I won't do it alone this time .I will get good aids to help us out.I will be home and she will be home. The respite did me no good, and the memory unit did her no good.She will see her psych.,on a regular schedule and see what happens.
tell everyone that I was scared. When I got there my wife was doing her usual, take me home routine? The mgr. took me into his office and said she only does that for a few minutes when you come and go. He showed me quite a number of photos of her having fun. He said you know you still have 3 weeks that you have paid for, so why not let her stay?."The Best Laid schemes of Mice and Men! So she is still there.
Good luck. Does the facility not have Independent Living, where you could live, too?
You are a loving and good husband and whatever you choose to do should be best for you as well as your wife.