Wish she would die or I could. But neighter is going to happen. So hard to deal with her. I'm sick of it. Ther is noone else to help. Except minor things ocationally. No relatives except brother that makes things worse. She doesnt have friends. Only knows one neighbor. Who doesnt want to help. I have talked to her. Barbara
NOTE - my mom did not like this one little bit and tried a few things like 1) not cleaning or doing laundry (her choice) or going to her doctor appointments (her choice) in order to force my hand. But she is competent so if she chose to live in filth and not go to the doctor - her choice. I told her that while I loved her, I could not longer manage 2 households - so I am willing to do X, Y, and Z. I had relatives calling and yelling at me about my mom - etc. FINALLY, with my help -she set up services.
You don't have to do it all even though she might insist. Help her find options