I just got this email response from my brother today. You would think he PLAYED football but nope, just a spectator...
"Due to the start of football season, we are unable to cover Sat./ Sun. 9-11or 9-12 or Sat/Sun 9-l8 or 9-l9"
I use the couple of hours off to go buy groceries! I had to laugh or I would be crying. What stupid excuses have you gotten?
My friends call me responsible.
Dad doesn't like much contact with any of them. He knows he can always depend on me. They have disappointed us so many times ... very sad.
My mother was recently hospitalized with pancreatitis and a UTI and my brother and her sister never called to see how she was! I was always calling them thinking they actually wanted to know. Finally, I gave up and said "why am I doing this?" They should be calling ME!
These are the same people who will show up once the person passes on and put on a big display. When my mom dies, I want to put her obit in the paper AFTER the service so these toads can't show up! It's a bit of "revenge" for not showing up while she was alive. My brother's two adult children flew into town and couldn't be bothered to stop by for a few minutes to visit. Their grandmother is 92! I send them all emails that her birthday is coming and she would like a card or to send her a card for Valentine's Day. It's like pulling teeth.
My brother and his wife did come over today. Then my brother proceeded to get into a huge fight with me! We are on different political sides and he uses that to push my buttons. Like the Hospice social worker said - having an elderly parent doens't improve family dynamics!
The only thing that keeps me going is knowing that once mom is gone, I will not have to speak to them ever again...for my own MENTAL HEALTH!
My brothers are kind hearted - but don't have a clue..... Think they do.
Not one of them has helped with Dad's care.
Realy hurts
I have 6 siblings all of who live nearby with the exception of my oldest sister. She comes for 3 weeks in the summer to help me out, and spends lots of $ to help Mom out. She bought me an infrared camera for her bedroom this year, and now I can watch Mom at night, on my laptop. She spends more time with Mom in those 3 weeks, than the rest who live close.
When I finally decided to give up on getting any help from them, I had a whole lot less stress. They are not worth the time I was putting into getting angry with them.
And 3 of us have already decided that when Mom passes, we are not having any services. So if any of the others plan on putting on a show, they can forget it, just like Mom has forgotten who they are! I'm done trying to get them involved. They'll have to live with their guilt when she is gone! It is a hard lesson for all of us to learn, but once we do, it brings some peace.
I wonder, is anyone here doing care giving the favorite child? Or does it not work that way? My mom loves her son far more than me and if he so much as sends her an Email she gets excited like a lover has called , it is sick. Where as I am just here, a thousand kind of disappointments....
children. But mom still is on her best behavior if one of them visits. I get all the crap because I am with her all the time. They get all the good that she has left. Just the nature of the beast!