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Very sorry for your loss! I'm betting your wife wouldn't want you to join her, until it's your own time to go. Have you considered a grief counselor or group? It's usually a free resource and can help you through the most difficult times. You have many co-members Here for you if you need to talk! Your welcome to message me and I hope things get easier as more time passes. 😇Kelly
Hi MattnGale13, Caregiving is a long difficult road, and we're happy you have found the support of others here on this site. However, there are limits to what untrained members on our site can provide for you. Please reach out to experts for additional support and the help you need 24 hours a day at the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call 1-800-273-8255
If you are having thoughts of suicide, call 1-800-273-8255. This is the National Suicide Prevention Hotline.
What would your wife say if she knew you are considering this? I doubt she’d encourage you. And how would you do it? You say you have no one. Would you do it in a public place and leave others to clean up after you? You could potentially scar someone for life if they witnessed it. And, you know, there are religious beliefs that people who take their own lives don’t go to Heaven.
Take a deep breath, and tomorrow morning call your Primary Care. Ask for a referral to a grief counselor. Or, call the place that handled your wife’s arrangements. I got lots of literature from my mom’s funeral home. Come back often and let us know how you’re doing.
Your grief is normal, instead of rushing into anything, get re-connected with an old friend or coworker, or churchmember. Sharing memories of your wife with them &having good company will help you see past the urge to give up. You can private message me if you want to talk more another day. I'm alone too, & its not easy, I know. Keep in touch. Remember, God loves you.✌🙋
Matt - I am so sorry for the loss of your wife. I can tell that you loved her very much. I bet she loved you a lot, too. She was a lucky woman to have such a man like you for her husband. If all women were that lucky.
How long were you two married? Do you have any children?
Right now, you're hurting and it's worse when the holidays come around. Please please join a support group for grieving spouses. There's got to be a local group near you. You will see that you are not alone. There are others whose spouses have passed and now they are hurting and grieving like you. You can come and share your stories, find support, and give support.
There is life after the death of a spouse, and it can be joyful again. Believe it.
Here is a link to an article that gives you 10 places to get support for grieving spouses. Do check it out.
Dear Matt, I am so very sorry for your loss. I know a man who is going through the same thing. He lost his wife just a few days after you. He is too grieving his loss. He says the same thing as you do. But, Matt it is still fresh it has not been that long. God has plans for you that is why you are still here. My Mom is still grieving after losing my Dad of 61 years of marriage 2 years ago today. It is a hard process.Do you have a church? A preacher maybe that you can talk with. Or would you be willing to seek out a support group? I truly am sorry for your loss, I know you are in so much pain and it hurts so bad. Unfortunately we have to feel that in order to heal. And Matt, you will heal. And if you are a believer, The Lord is a great healer. I will be praying for you. Hang in there, it will not always feel this way, it is still fresh.
When someone is depressed, part of the disease is that they cannot remember ever being happy and they can't envision a day when they will feel happy again. It's a lie depression tells you- that you'll never be happy again.
Your grief now is raw. Please don't try to go through this all alone. Find a grief counselor, a grief support group or a patient friend. Tell yourself this truth: You won't feel this bad forever. Your pain will become bearable and you will remember the happy times again. You will feel happy again.
Doctors have some help if you really get stuck. But take care of yourself, exercise and talk talk talk. I'm so sorry for your loss.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
How long were you married?
Caregiving is a long difficult road, and we're happy you have found the support of others here on this site.
However, there are limits to what untrained members on our site can provide for you.
Please reach out to experts for additional support and the help you need 24 hours a day at the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:
Call 1-800-273-8255
What would your wife say if she knew you are considering this? I doubt she’d encourage you. And how would you do it? You say you have no one. Would you do it in a public place and leave others to clean up after you? You could potentially scar someone for life if they witnessed it. And, you know, there are religious beliefs that people who take their own lives don’t go to Heaven.
Take a deep breath, and tomorrow morning call your Primary Care. Ask for a referral to a grief counselor. Or, call the place that handled your wife’s arrangements. I got lots of literature from my mom’s funeral home. Come back often and let us know how you’re doing.
How long were you two married? Do you have any children?
Right now, you're hurting and it's worse when the holidays come around. Please please join a support group for grieving spouses. There's got to be a local group near you. You will see that you are not alone. There are others whose spouses have passed and now they are hurting and grieving like you. You can come and share your stories, find support, and give support.
There is life after the death of a spouse, and it can be joyful again. Believe it.
Here is a link to an article that gives you 10 places to get support for grieving spouses. Do check it out.
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/ten-places-grieving-widow_b_8039916
Can you tell us more about yourself and your wife?
I am so very sorry for your loss. I know a man who is going through the same thing. He lost his wife just a few days after you. He is too grieving his loss. He says the same thing as you do. But, Matt it is still fresh it has not been that long. God has plans for you that is why you are still here. My Mom is still grieving after losing my Dad of 61 years of marriage 2 years ago today. It is a hard process.Do you have a church? A preacher maybe that you can talk with. Or would you be willing to seek out a support group?
I truly am sorry for your loss, I know you are in so much pain and it hurts so bad. Unfortunately we have to feel that in order to heal. And Matt, you will heal. And if you are a believer, The Lord is a great healer.
I will be praying for you.
Hang in there, it will not always feel this way, it is still fresh.
Your grief now is raw. Please don't try to go through this all alone. Find a grief counselor, a grief support group or a patient friend. Tell yourself this truth: You won't feel this bad forever. Your pain will become bearable and you will remember the happy times again. You will feel happy again.
Doctors have some help if you really get stuck. But take care of yourself, exercise and talk talk talk. I'm so sorry for your loss.