We all have a tendency to put are selves down, I wasn't patient enough, or I should of been there more ect...
We don't give are selves enough pats on the back for the good things we have done. Most see it's as bragging. Id like to hear some bragging about are selves.
I have been lucky to live a "lucky" life. At 82 I can still get around well and walk a lot, and that is not credit to me; that's good luck.
I learned early on to be frugal, to save, and to learn that I didn't need "luxury" to be happy, so I was never spent a whole lot, and was able to save well.
That's again good education and good luck.
I was able to make myself an RN without much expense to speak of. I absolutely loved my career. I was able to save well because of it.
I have hooked up with great people in my life after a couple of learning experiences that were trying.
I would say I have been lucky. Not especially bright or courageous. Just LUCKY.
I wonder if at least one half--probably more--of it isn't just luck?
You make the choice to see the good in it. Amazing quality.
I enjoy being frugal, too.
I went to moms, 3 times this week, yeah she is pretty miserable, yup I see back pain written all over her face.
But I've accepted the fact that I have no power to change this situation. But I do have the power to not go if I don't feel like I can't deal with it. I do have the power to not bring it home. I do have the power to be happy inspite of my mothers pain. Her and my brother chose this, not me so why was I carrying all the pain. I'm not sure, honestly.
My caregiveing journey is not over, I have no doubt that I will have bad days, so I'm not saying I'm not going to have hard times, but I'll get though them.
Many of you led me to the watering hole, but I drank the water!!
I stepped up as much as I could to help DH with his father . Admittedly burned out faster though that time . It is what it is . We all have our limits . I accept that .
Here I learned about hospices that have inpatient facilities, I searched until I found one near my son's home over a year before we found ourselves in that position. No need to rush around and make bad choices during severe stress. Thank God for this forum, bone mets and brain mets are a horrific way to die.
We lost mom in May, even though I was long distance, I was able to help my family by insisting to the other siblings that we must pay hourly wages to the family members who were insisting on taking care of our mom in her home (and convincing them to accept the money!) I did the agency and caregiver arrangements that supported those family caregivers at the end. We all know how it is, they were too slammed by the work of the minute to make a phone call.
I am proud of myself for sticking it out as my grandpa's primary caregiver for the past 5 1/2 years. Doing this by myself, learning EVERYTHING, on my own and have managed just fine! he is set up well - in home aid services and safety measures through out home. well fed and healthy, without any serious illnesses (only one bad fall last december), thank goodness.
I've done a good job, at something i did not want to sign up for, but assumed the responsibility because it had to be done and there was no one else willing.
Pat on my back and on everyone out there! and happy labour day weekend!