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Father is confused at times and forgets where all monies are going. To the point he called a CPA for advice. How can deal with this, There is no other family memebers who will take over POA. HELP!
My Moms bank Statement was my proof. It showed her money going in and coming out. I paid everything by check. If I bought anything out of pocket for her, I kept the receipts and reimbursed myself once a month by check. I put the receipts in an envelope with the ck # I used and the date.
Keep good records and you have nothing to worry about. If you are good at spreadsheets, make one up once a month showing how his money gets spent. Starting with his SS and any pension in the left column and expenses in the right.
There is a Teepa Snow video on YouTube that "role plays" this very similar scenario and how to interact with a loved one who is having this delusion. I'm not sure which of the following videos it's in but I know it's in one of them.
You're in it for the long haul so best to educate yourself on how to better engage with your LO with cognitive impairment (that as you describe it appears very similar to dementia behaviors). Here's what I've found helpful:
Phrases to Learn for Caregivers (Teepa Snow, dementia expert) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KKejCymVS2Q
Dementia Communication Strategies with Joan Lunden & Teepa Snow https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OubTWj995Q
Understanding Symptoms and Behaviors of Dementia - Teepa Snow Webinar https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0tzJGUxio8M
How Dementia Affects Language Skills (Teepa Snow) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0BlZF_4EKp4
Common Issues With Dementia (Teepa Snow) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5QMeQpkPhA
4 Common Dementia Caregiver Mistakes (start 3 minutes into the video) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ymp2SgFhNtw
And also:
Rules for engaging your LO with dementia:
1) Agree, do not argue 2) Divert, do not attempt to reason 3) Distract, do not shame 4) Reassure, do not lecture 5) Reminisce, do not ask “Do you remember…?” 6) Repeat, do not say “I told you” 7) Do what they can do, don’t say “you can’t” 8) Ask, do not demand 9) Encourage, do not condescend 10) Reinforce, never force
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Keep good records and you have nothing to worry about. If you are good at spreadsheets, make one up once a month showing how his money gets spent. Starting with his SS and any pension in the left column and expenses in the right.
You're in it for the long haul so best to educate yourself on how to better engage with your LO with cognitive impairment (that as you describe it appears very similar to dementia behaviors). Here's what I've found helpful:
Phrases to Learn for Caregivers (Teepa Snow, dementia expert)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KKejCymVS2Q
Dementia Communication Strategies with Joan Lunden & Teepa Snow
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OubTWj995Q
Understanding Symptoms and Behaviors of Dementia - Teepa Snow Webinar
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0tzJGUxio8M
How Dementia Affects Language Skills (Teepa Snow)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0BlZF_4EKp4
Common Issues With Dementia (Teepa Snow)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5QMeQpkPhA
4 Common Dementia Caregiver Mistakes (start 3 minutes into the video)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ymp2SgFhNtw
And also:
Rules for engaging your LO with dementia:
1) Agree, do not argue
2) Divert, do not attempt to reason
3) Distract, do not shame
4) Reassure, do not lecture
5) Reminisce, do not ask “Do you remember…?”
6) Repeat, do not say “I told you”
7) Do what they can do, don’t say “you can’t”
8) Ask, do not demand
9) Encourage, do not condescend
10) Reinforce, never force