I live in Georgia and unfortunately they do not have any assistance for an in home health aid if the person has Medicare. So I try to get Medicaid and they tell me my Mom would qualify but she cannot have more than $2000 in her banking account. My mom is still sane enough to make decisions and believe me you they will ALWAYS be what benefits her. No one in my family will help because they have wiped their hands of her physical and psychological abuse. I just take it because I have no other recourse right now. I have taken an unpaid leave of absence from work for a month and have to go back in a couple of weeks. I can't get the Medicaid in place because my Mom refuses to spend some of the money in her bank account. At this point I just want to get her out of my house!
Depending on her age the police will determine if she's booked or sent to the hospital. It's time for you to start doing what benefits YOU not her. Tell her in no uncertain terms that she will not only be paying rent (a fair and reasonable amount of your choosing) but that the remainder of her funds will be spent for homecare. You will allow her $150 a month spending money. This is what a nursing home would be offering her and make sure she knows that this is only temporary because she WILL BE moving out. Then start looking at some senior communities for her to move into.
Take a page from the playbook of your other family members. No one will help her because she's a toxic and abusive person. That's not her not you. Also, you did not make her that way so you don't have to take the punishment and cnsequences of her bad behavior and life choices.
If she's mentally competent, you may have to have her served with eviction to get her out of your house. Hopefully it won't come to this, but if it does do it. Then the state will get her placed in an appropriate care facility or senior community.
Your work funds are for your rainy days and your retirement.
Do not take another leave of absence. You need to secure your future. When you say there is no other recourse, let's face it...there is no other recourse that she will accept. You have to learn to get past that. The old saying "Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm". If your mom needs help, then she has to pay for it herself because you have to be at work. If she can't be left alone then she needs to go into a new living arrangement. There are other options, just ones she may not be happy with. Are you happy with the current living situation? No? Why is her happiness more important than yours? If she is the one in need then she needs to be the one to compromise.