My 86 year old Dad has started to make sexually inappropriate statements to me. Earlier today he told me that he would really like to "mess around" with me and that I should come to bed with him.
This is so out of character for him it is terrifying. Im a 64 year old woman. This is turning out to be a PTSD trigger for me. I don't know what to do?
I am so, so sorry you are having to deal with this, but please note I am equally sorry for both of you - you because it is absolutely harrowing, and your father because his dignity is in tatters.
But there are techniques and strategies for managing all "challenging behaviours," and they can be learned. If they're not enough then you will need to consider placement or full-time support at home; but, as I used to ponder when I was bed-bathing my mother and changing her continence care pads, it is amazing what you can get used to.
So - this may turn out to be your red line and you would have nothing to feel guilty about. But it may turn out that you surprise yourself with your own strength and depth of understanding, and get through this horrifying phase in his illness. Either way, we will be here to support you.
With my mom, I just kept repeating to her, “Be a lady. Ladies don’t talk like that!”