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I visit him daily, 17 years married. He always had 2 very convincing personalities.

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If your husband is bald-face lying to his doctor and the doctor is believing him without consulting you at all, then it may be time to find a new doctor. The staff at the ALF will know if your husband falls..........they will have to help him up and a report will be filed; the POA will be called, etc. If he falls and is able to get up without any help from the staff, THEN he can get away with saying he didn't fall. I know b/c my mother has done it herself many times while in Assisted Living. And she sweet talks the care givers into thinking she's a loving and caring person when in reality, she's something entirely different. Fooling staff is one thing, showtiming the doctor is another.

Wishing you the best of luck!
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Did you witness the falls? Are there obvious signs of the falls? Honestly there is not a lot that you can do. Is your husband diagnosed with dementia? I think Countrymouse is spot on. They may just not be contradicting him. There is not a whole lot they can do about it either way.
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Do they believe him? Or are they just not openly contradicting him?

So: the problem is that when visiting your husband at his ALF you have witnessed falls/stumbles/related incidents, but when later questioned about these your husband denies all knowledge of them.

Is it making any difference to his care or medical treatment? What would you want to happen to make him safer that isn't already happening?
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I have never come across this. Even in Moms early stage of Dementia, her neurologist would ask her questions and then look at me for a yes or no answer, given by nodding or shaking my head.

I think I would have a talk with someone. Dementia goes hand and hand with Parkinsons. I would ask them that question. Why do u take what he says when I am the one who lives with him and can tell you he is not telling u the truth. And a Psychiatrist of all people should know this.
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