My mother asked me to pick her up at 730 am to take her to her home that she is getting ready to rent out. I said " Yes I will drop you off and go back to my home to finish feeding and taking care of my animals then come back to take you grocery shopping. Well the house painter was 45 min. late and I told her I needed to get home to take care of the animals. Well that put her in a huff and she decided to have me take her back to her apt. I dropped her off but as she was getting out of my car, she yelled at me and called me " A COMPLETE B***H. We haven't talked in a month and a half. I feel she owes me an apology and it's tearing me apart. She is 90 years old and I feel she has no respect for my boundaries. Am I being unreasonable?. I feel she is verbally and mentally abusing me. I tend to almost all of her needs. I do so much for her. I just had my 60th birthday and she didn't even call or text me but on her 90th birthday in July I was the only one that made sure she had a wonderful day.. she has been this way with me for many many years
My mother abused me verbally as an adult and physically as well as a child.
It was either her or me, I chose me.
No one has the right to abuse another.
How/why/when did you get in the position of "I tend to almost all of her needs"?
Does your mom have dementia? I am assuming not, since she is managing a rental and directing tradesmen.
Why do you keep assisting her if she isn't pleasant to you?
Are you expecting her behavior towards you to change? It won't.
Why not let her manage her own affairs and continue with your life?
Does anyone have POA?