THIS ISN'T SMALL STUFF: I feel almost guilty doing this post - because I know good things like this just don't happen. I don't really know how in the world this came about - guess the planets were aligned or something. But it happened.
There is so little really GOOD stuff happening for care givers - I know. But something happened that has given me a real lift! Nothing short of a MIRACLE, actually!
My MIL's sister moved into a fabulous (think very elegant) ALF and has asked my MIL to come and visit here there. She wasn't sure if that would be allowed - but she wanted her only sister to come out for a visit and she had planned to check on it and get back with my MIL.
Her memory isn't real good - so she may have forgotten :0) Because she didn't call back right away.
2 days later and still no word. So, my MIL asked me if I could give them a call and ask if she would be allowed to come and visit. So, I called. The person I spoke to said they would have to pass it by the director. She would call us back.
3 more days and the call finally came. Every single day my MIL asked me if I had heard anything from AZ yet. Finally the call came and IT WAS GOOD NEWS. Yes, she could visit and stay up to a month for the cost of meals ($15 per day). My MIL will be staying with her sister for 3 weeks in January in sunny AZ!! She will be able to erase almost a month of Midwest Winter off her calendar!
I am nearly beside myself with joy! I am so afraid I will wake up and find out it is just a dream.
At first my MIL was just about jumping up and down (IF SHE COULD jump up and down) at the prospect of this trip. Now that her airline ticket has been purchased - she has changed her mind. She doesn't want to go. No doubt because she knows how much my hubby and I WANT her to go :0)
My dear hubby stepped up to bat and told his mother that unless she was dead or hospitalized - she WAS going to AZ and she WAS going to have a great time too! Is he great or what?
I almost hated to post this - because I know so many have it so hard and never ever get a break of any kind - let alone three weeks. But, you know, it doesn't happen often that we are cut a break!
I have found that even spending a few hours at the thrift store does wonders for my spirits. But THREE WEEKS without having to fret and worry at all about my MIL? I can barely contain myself!! I am smiling again ..................
I hope you all have found something GOOD in your day - even something much smaller or simpler. Sometimes it is hard to find anything at all to be grateful for - but we need to keep looking. I know what it is like to feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel too - been there and done that. Most of the time it is the little things that I appreciate. Good coffee, on one and only best friend's emails, my hubby 'fielding' for me with his mother, by soft memory foam pillow, a Blue Moon with and big orange slice in it. We have to take joy is the small stuff because most of the time there are no big things like this one.
Just this morning, we drank our coffee outside and it was such a pleasant start to our day. Try it - you'll like it too :0)
Please forgive me for posting this. I wish I could giver every one of you 3 weeks off too. If wishes came true - you would get to share my good fortune.
If this bubble bursts - I am afraid my sanity will be splattered all over the floor!!!
she pulled up her ADULT pants said ok mom, i can do this and twenty minutes later she called to say "I DID IT MOM! I MADE IT TO WORK!! THE CAR DIDN'T EVEN STALL ON ME!!"
i was so happy to have the house to myself just for a little while....
when my daughter got home from work(again without stalling) we picked gma up who had a smile on her face(which meant she won) gma treated us to dinner that night.
my kid has not driven herself to work since then because driving stick still makes her nervous but i thank god & her for giving me that ONE day!!
enjoy your time alone!!!
No Good thing is pleasant to possess, Without Friends TO SHARE IT.
by Lucius Annaeus Seneca
My family is making a dream come true. I have a consultation tomorrow to get all the work I need done. It will also be nice to be able to smile from my heart again. Thanks for listening to my good news. Hope you get some soon!
I agree, drinking coffee outside and getting some fresh air is a great way to start the day and a life saver for me in our small home.
Get your calendar out & start marking the days!!! Woot
Hoping you are all enjoying some nice fall days. :0)
Another positive that we feel will come from this. She will know that ASL does not equal NH. She just 'may' (but we can only hope for so much) even participate in activities.
We had to laugh. She will have to pay $5 per meal. Mind you - DINNER is ordered from a MENU at this ALF :0) Served by fellows with chef's hats! This is not your run-of-the-mill ALF. She was complaining about $5 per meal.
I told her not to be ridiculous. Her Lean Cuisine's cost $3.50 each! We're talking gourmet quality meals for $5. I told her I could only HOPE to have a Spa type vacation at a 5 star ALF some day! :0) I wish I could share some of the food photos they have on their website. :0) Let's just say there is NO WAY she won't have a great time. Why can't she be as happy for us as we are for her? Guess that is asking too much.
Wishing you all a gorgeous sunset tonight............... Looks like ours is gonna be a beaut.
I volunteer as a tutor at the local HS, and my last three students thanked me very sincerely for helping them.
Just looking at my husband cooing and petting his beloved kitty brightens up most days. I might dread the future, but life right now is pretty tolerable.