My husband has dementia, mid-stage. He still does some tasks for himself, which I encourage. However, often he leaves burners on and faucets running. Last night he cooked up two pounds of fish for himself (why that much I don't know, as his appetite is very small) and then put it in the microwave, rather than the refrigerator. I discovered the plate there this morning. Is there any point to my mentioning these forgetful or confused moments to him or should I just let it go? With his doctor he denies having any problems.
I don't think I'd mention the fish in the microwave. That's not dangerous, just wasteful, and is one more thing to embarrass him. The stove is a bit different.
I like the idea of making the appliances too complicated to use such as taking the knobs off the stove if possible. Let him help in the kitchen but with safe tasks.
None of this is easy. You'll have to be vigilant so he doesn't burn the house down.
Good luck! Please keep coming back to let us know how it's going.
Carol
For major things, like the day she forget she lived with us, put on her coat and left to walk home in the middle of the night, I'm not going to count on her not forgetting, again, and installed a door alarm.
My attitude is that I gently remind her, but I don't count on her remembering. If it's important, I don't count on her memory.
Yesterday I had to go do a neurological , mental & physical assessment on a 63 yr. old woman (I am an R.N.). I found a 3 to 4 yr. old in a woman's body
with the main care giver being her 93 yr. old mother, who was very intact.
The entire drive home I thanked the Powers That Are for what I was coming home to. So much depends on the place where your husband is-I would need more information.
Please know, you do not walk alone. I am beside you as are many others.
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