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While the thought is nice, the combination of Alz with Covid-19 says this would be a mistake. I don't see anywhere how long ago the previous funeral was, but it WAS in the past and Alz doesn't get any better over time - it may not have regressed much or any since then, but if she was confused and wanted to leave then, it likely won't be different now. On top of that is the concern for Covid-19. Even with masking and distancing people sometimes get exposed and might get sick. Being older, she is at even more risk. Having cognitive disorders, how well does she do wearing a mask? My mother kept taking hers off.

While it is nice to honor the person and their family and friends by attending, it really wouldn't serve a good purpose to take her. If you can safely attend, you can express condolences for her as well, and perhaps share a few fun memories that you have about her and this friend.

Even for those who are aware of what is going on, often they become restless, tired, maybe even irritable, when out of their "comfort" zone for too long. After taking mom to see the place we had chosen, which was more of a fun outing in a way, she, on return home, said it was nice, but next time she wouldn't go (by then she thought we were looking for a place for my YB!!!) Often they forget why they are there, what's going on or that they even went. They will forget the person passed. My mother began asking about her mother, 40+ years after she passed and she went to the wake and funeral! That memory was obviously gone.

Anyway, I would perhaps spend time talking with her about the friend, asking questions, viewing old pics together, etc, to celebrate his life instead of his death. In her mind, even if she went to the funeral, he would likely still be alive, so go with that!
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Does she know this person well? Does she socialize or interact this person? If not, she can probably skip the funeral and stay home with a sitter.
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Ask her if she want to go and be prepared to leave early. No one will think badly of you for trying or for putting your mother's needs first at the time, and ensuring no disruption for the bereaved.
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