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I've not read all the responses, generally I prefer to do that first, but no, you shouldn't lie to her doctor saying you will provide the care if you can't do it. IF she doesn't get the proper care, she won't heal and it could get worse.

Don't let her words hurt you and make you feel guilty. You've done NOTHING wrong. If the golden boy wants to do her bidding and set her up for potential failure, that's on him.

Also, shame on your mother for asking you to lie! Usually when I see a title asking about lies, it's more about the fibs and white lies we have to resort to with those who have dementia.

Two weeks are nothing. She'll either get over it or she won't. You should never have to resort to lies to "earn" your mother love or forgiveness.
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No you should not have lied to your mother's doctor, it is against the best interest of your mother. If no one is available to care for mom for two weeks then she should be placed in a rehab facility until she can go home.

You and your brother should get together and make plans for mom. The big question is can mom continue to live on her own? If she is great, but you two should have plans in place for the time when mom can no longer be on her own.

I'm so sorry for the hurt and angst you feel. I wish you and your family the best and hope your mom gets better soon.
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NO you should not lie to her Dr to appease her. If she needs the care you describe and therefore needs to be in a care facility for a few weeks then that is what she needs as family cannot be there 24/7. It is only a few weeks so certainly that is what is safer for her.

She may be being very negative towards you at the moment - but I suspect that the strong personality you have shown in the past, and her asking you not your brother is actually a complete opposite to the way you have interpreted it. She doesn't love your brother more - she trusts you more to make the right decision rather than just give in to her. If she were asked who she could rely on more it would in all probability be you because you don't fear doing what you feel to be right. It may feel as though she will no longer forgive you, but I think she knows where care for her really lies.
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