My two sisters are financially miles apart: one can afford things and the other can't. One filed for bankruptcy a few years ago that greatly affected the other sister. Our dad passed away a few months ago without any assets to pay for the funeral which has been left to us kids to pay for. My older sister, who can pay, and I have so far been paying for it. There are a few thousand dollars remaining to pay. My older sister is legally obligated to the funeral home and will end up paying the balance while my younger sister will have paid nothing. My younger sister and her husband both have jobs and have not made any effort to pay anything toward the bill. She is defensive about messages concerning starting some kind of payment plan to the funeral home. Since she knows she doesn't have to pay anything, she isn't. I sent a message to my two sisters about her starting to pay the funeral home and got no response from her but did get a response from one of her daughters, who wasn't part of the message. I told the daughter that this is between my sisters and I.
Our mom doesn't have any assets either so it will likely be up to my older sister and I to pay for any and all funeral arrangements when she passes.
The money was seized because my brother put the funds in his own account.
Hopefully that wasn't the only takeaway from my post!
When my father passed I went with Mom to the funeral home and she made the arrangements. After that she said just do for me what I did for Dad except don’t be dragging me to church. I didn’t go when I was alive so no need to take me when I’m dead. After MIL passed FIL went down and made his own arrangements so all we needed to pick out were flowers and write the Obit. When SIL passed two years ago hubby and youngest sister went together. SIL wanted no fuss and nothing formal she had chosen cremation. We had a memorial picnic at the family farm followed by a shootout in the corn field and fireworks. Everyone said it was a perfect way to remember her. Her ashes were spread on the farm privately.