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Forgot about a few looney tunes episodes with my mom. She was in a nursing home for 5 weeks for broken hip, but it wasn't seen as end of the road, but actual recovery...and she did. However, as many times as I told anyone not to give her certain painkillers, they did, and she went looney tunes. On her chart it was written that she was allergic to these, but actually she had become addicted to them. 20 pills a day maybe, where 2 would have done it. So, watch out for those meds! Another poster mentioned street construction. We had same here, with 2 solid weeks of jackhammers right outside Mom's bedroom window, starting at 7:30 am. She woke up most mornings confused, and sometimes thinking she was in hell. It was hell, I'll agree there!
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AlzCaregiver,

That is what I am afraid of. That is why I will keep my husband as long as I can.

My sister was in one. The nurse had a bad hand. She made my sister sit in the wheel chair because it was easy for the nurse to change the dressing on her arm. My sister just got back from a treatment and was VERY tired.

They did the same thing to my husband with blood pressure meds. I found out they gave it to him. The MG may have been lower but they still did it.

Our family is not safe in a nh, I don't care what others say.
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I think that part of the difference between a "good nh" and a bad one is whether or not the home belongs to a corporation and is a "for profit" home. I have found that the "for profit" homes in this area seem to hire people who appear to me to be all about a paycheck. I takes special people to work in the environment found in a nh and I haven't found any such people in the 2 in my area!!
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How are you going to be able to know that any one given nh is what they should be. You would have to be there 24/7. But they wouldn't do anything in front of you - like over drug a person, which they do - I don't trust any of them. Three different nh I have seen enough not to want my husband in one. I don't like taking him to the hospital. With what happened to me when I was in one of the best hospitals here when I had my heart attack. I didn't know the nurse hook up my IV. He did it when I was asleep. I got up to go to the bathroom and fell on the floor pulling the IV out, the stand it was on fell on the floor. After they got me back in bed. He threw all of his needles and what ever else was there on my bed. He slap my hand hard to get a vain up. My vains were up. I should of reported him and now I wish I had. Too much of this goes on and they do nothing about it anyway.
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sorry veins -
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if they do not do anything in front you its because the policy says i work in a nursing home and this is the policy we are not suppose to do any thing that pertains to the resident in front of the family members and reason why because its the residents rights i know i know its bull s---t but this is what they have..we also have the hippa law and its very good for the residents and reson i see because there are family members out there that tells us for example john is not suppose to come see dad he abused him in the past things like that,, is a must policy that we half to go through...now personally i think is a crock of s---t cause i have nothing to hide i perfer the family memebers see what i do just show them i have no reason to abuse them i love taking care of the elderly in the 22 yrs i have been in nusing i have seen the worst i have turn a new york resident that was very prejudice didn't want a black person to take care of them and its because she was abused by one and i can't blame her but i gain her trust it took me 5 mons to get this woman to trust me, i have been called all the names a black person is called but it didn't bother me cause she needed care lot of the aides that was there with me told me they do not know howi took it, its called PATIENCE u ignore all that i have gotten called in the office for letting a family member go in the shower room and watch me give the love one a shower SO WHAT like i said whats the big deal they told me i couldn't do that i ask them why its their love one i have nothing to hide my boss was really pissed at me and wrote me up cause i kept doing it i didn't care i want them to see what type of care i give..and one thing i do is give good care..but i know all aides,nurses are not the same and nusing homes
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msdiva, what happens when a loved one says "John shouldn't visit because he abused in the past?" What does the nursing home do with that?
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they make note of this informed all head dept and the nursing crew uncluding us aides we half to abide by the rules..the family memeber has to be i.d. before they enter the floor this is only way we can protect the residents if something would happen the nursing and every one on that floor will be in alot of trouble i've seen this incident before and they family member took the resident out and he ended up dead...and the nursing home got find BIG TIME for neg
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What if it's my word against someone else's, and they are accusing me of what they themselves are guilty of, and people don't know who to believe? What if they can pass themselves off as "the victim," and "I want my rights," while disregarding the emotional safety and abusing and violating the rights of their own spouse, accusing offspring of being the "abuser." What a nightmare for families. How does the NH handle such situations? Thanks for your feedback. Bless you for all you've endured.
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if it get in a situation like that it goes under invest...everyone involved until then if you are the person they saiy you are then you will half to wait if you are the d.p.o.a. and they accused you..they will half to have strong proof....if proof is shown then thats when state steps and thats when the reall mess starts and you dnt want to go that route al all cause the state can be a b--ch about this they frown upon these situations
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The accuser is a mental case that can be proven, as I have medical records both past and present of severe personality disorders and multiple diagnosis, and have personally witnessed spouse abusing spouse, with only my husband and me seeing this. Their church documented similar reports, but may not want to be involved. A sibling vacillates, holding out for inheritance. That sibling suffered abuse as well, as a helpless child. This is a nightmare! God knows the truth. Just hope the court can see it.
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Learning a lot from your posts. Thank you,
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SecretSister, It is hard to get past a person who shifts the blame. But if someone is always being reported, where there is smoke then look for the fire. If you are a nurse and a good one you don't have to worry. I had two nurses who were the best. But the male nurse was somthing else. Oh not saying anything about a male nurse.
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msdiva, that is good but you can't always get the proof. There isn't much you can do about it. Like I said to SecretSister, if the nurse is reported several times then there is something going on.
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ok...but there is ways you can get proof..i know is hard but instead of being accused i will half to look further if someone was blaming me i know alittle cuz my family did the same of course i had nothng to hide but the state came to dds unexpected and lord behold they found nothing which they were mislead their gonna come if this been reported regardless ...but i would call state if this nurse has been reported several time anyone can call them
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These days, video survl. systems could record everything in a nursing home. Heck, if there is a questionable subject, be it visitor or patient, a simple camcorder could be set up (with elect cord plug in), and some high quality video/audio evidence compiled, one way or the other. I suppose a nursing-home wide sign saying 'Nursing Home Under Video Surveillance." Suppose there are issues of patient privacy I have not thought through.

Almost every cell phone is now a camera as well, and one could grab pertinent video moments.

as a sole caregiver, I use videos to show the level of care I provide, at least as far a quality of life. I videotaped health crises episodes as well to show to doctors, and also videos to show mom's 'normal' level of behavior. They were both helpful in recent hospitalization. I have dozens of hours of film "in the can" that I haven't edited. Sorry, I veered a bit off topic.
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How is your mother doing now? I hope she has gotten adjust and better by now.

Is she getting used to life in a nursing home? If she is still hallucinating, have you thought about live-in care? That way a load is taken off your shoulders and you can keep an eye on her?
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kathyjohnson, That is what I did. My sister comes over three days a week and takes some of it off of me. I am still working 2-3 afternoons a week in our office. That gives me time away from home or what ever I want to do while she is here. I think I would have gone out of my mind by now.
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To Reba, I'm not a nurse, but a daughter and one of their Caregivers. I am worried about their vulnerabilities.
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This is something that happened today. He told me at times he wants to hurt himself. Is this part of the disease of AD. He said but his mind told him not to. I wonder if he knew what he was saying.
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