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Sorry Gt, really am.
Being a woman, there has been many times when I have been approached married or not, that men have made a pass or whatever towards me. All they have to do is see the nasty look on my face and they know they're playing OUT OF BOUNDARY with me, sometimes no words are needed because I can get that dirty look but I have spoken up quite angrily and I don't regret it. Most people can tell who's approachable or not and will try play that game with them.  If one of my husband's brothers made an inappropriate pass at me I probably should tell him but I know he would whoop their a** and they would have a newer bigger one! I too would rather have peace in the family, I'm just fortunate I have not experienced that and I understand you wanting to keep the peace.
I'm sorry the sisters are not grateful and super appreciative for all that you have been doing and are willing to do... caring  for an aging parent has been the hardest thing I've ever done in my whole 54 years of life !!! 
I admire you for stepping up to that role. 

I'm choosing to believe now that you are sincere, a little mixed up and need some clarity on what to do and are genuinely seeking help here.

My best wishes to you and keep listening to the others on here, they are very wise!!!
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What I find interesting is that it is 3 sisters from one family. What are the odds of that happening?

If it was just one sister, then this situation would sound real, but 3.... seriously?
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GT,
As a victim of hands on sexual harassment decades ago I have NO tolerance for your situation. As the victim I was infuriated! I could be wrong but I think by not telling your Sisters in law to back off you are actually encouraging them! I also think you better tell your wife before someone else tells her! I saw in one of your other posts your wife has nine siblings. Let them figure out how/who needs to care for the elders! You also mentioned you and your wife have a business. I suggest running your business is where you need to be.

Seriously, who takes off a button up coat over their head peeling off their shirt in the process? Then doesn't put their shirt back on? I am not sure this gal would respect boundaries even if you tried to establish them.
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The thing is, your post IS Confusing, and as much as people would love to help, you must come back, and tell us how you have or intend on fixing this problem. You definitely should not let it continue, feeling like a piece of meat, just because it might cause some distension in the family.

You are the one who needs to set the boundries, and those SIL's need to back off, as it's clearly causing you discomfort.

What has your relationship been like, with these SIL's in the past? If it been "all good", then you should have no problem with saying "hey, WTF"? They could be "pranking" you, but all 3, seem a strange coincidence! You might be putting off a "vibe", and haven't set clear boundries, but obviously need to start NOW!

YES, history says it women who often get unfortunately sexually abused by men, but we all know that it goes both ways, and you need to be the one that puts a stop to it.

If they don't know how much this make you uncomfortable, it's time to set them straight! If that doesn't work, then you must your wife, as the longer this goes on, will begin to look like you are playing along. Then the lines become blurred, and then wifey won't know Who to believe!

You've done the right thing asking for help, now it's time to put it into action! Good luck!
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When they "visit" leave. Say "while ur here I think I'll take a walk". Or "Going to the store to pick up" "going to give u some alone time with Mom and Dad". Just get out of the room. Don't wait for them to say no. Grab your coat and go. I bet after a few times of this, they won't be visiting much anymore.😃
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Well that's not how it spelled it, your wrong and a troll, just saying. Take a chill pill .
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Well, it's a good thing that you didn't let a misspelling of this anti-female slur go by without pointing it out. Goodness knows when I use my anti-female slurs, I want to spell them correctly. 

Gt, I'd like to believe that you're 100% sincere.  Already in this short thread -- where I want to help you, but then I doubt your motives and list reasons why, then I apologize and explain why I feel there are issues with your communication here...  

...and you ignore addressing any of that, but instead comment to someone who posted a misspelling...  HOW am I supposed to take you seriously, sir?

Good luck to you, and to your family and in laws. If you need help with a caregiving-related issue, this is a great forum for that.
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