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Just wanted to ask what is a quick cure for anxiety - just feel like a failure when I compare myself to others. Anyway, just having a bad time right now. Thank you.
kssfgirl, I take a very low dosage of Xanax. I am pill sensitive, so my primary doctor had to try different anti-anxiety meds to find one that I tolerate. I should have started taking that pill years ago back when I had first started helping my parents because the stress of those 7 years had complicated so many things.
I do meditation yoga, and exercise. I also have my grandkids come over for the afternoon (therapy for me). You have to find what works best for you. Caring for loved ones is extremely stressful and most of us do not get training, we just figure it out as we go. I read, everything I can on my mom's condition and ways to deal with the accompanying behaviors. The more I learn, the better I handle the situation and the less anxiety I have.
I wanted to toss in for discussion here...see your physician for advice on dosing. Some antidepressant/antianxiety medications do not work as a "quick fix". They require a person be on them for several weeks to see results.
Music and art therapy help me. Put on a CD of your favorite music, sit down, put your feet up, close your eyes and let yourself respond to the music.
Garden catalogues also are wonderfully inspiring; garden magazines are always near me and with me wherever I go. Even if you don't garden, photos of roses, peonies and lovely flowers usually can soften anyone's heart and banish the blues for a while.
If you like tea, brew a cup and sit down, again with your feet up, and just let yourself relax.
Integrate relaxation time into your daily schedule; and make sure you take that time while putting aside all your other chores and obligations at least long enough to restore a calm attitude.
A more analytical method is to make lists of everything you have to do, prioritize, and choose only one to do. It's hard - sometimes everything seems so important it has to all be done today. I think these concepts of what we perceive is necessary, as well as health concerns of ourselves and our loved ones, are the hardest anxieties to battle - often there's little control we have over them. And that lack of control is one of the most important things to recognize.
I am on an anti-depressant, but it does nothing for my anxiety. I used to take Xanax when I lived in another state & couldn't get to see my mom. Now that I am back in my home state, with my mom, the doctor I see is hesitant to give me anything for sleep or anxiety.
Xanax. For truly quick and easy. Use it only as needed. Everything else is good too - and much better than a pharmaceutical solution in the longterm. But to be honest, I think Xanax has kept me from having a stroke.
Sorry to hear how you feel. It is a struggle with so many things going on in life. All the suggestions are good. But for myself, I am trying to go back to basics, eating well, drinking enough water and getting enough sleep. I was reading tonight about doing daily affirmations like "I am worth." Repeat 20 times a day if necessary till you believe. Take care of yourself the best you can. Thinking of you.
Exercise can help if you have the time and energy.
I was dealing with major anxiety while trying to help my parents because I was placed into a situation where I knew nothing "about this job" and had no mentor to guide me. I got away from exercising and that cause major health issues with me. Now I am taking meds to help with my anxiety.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Garden catalogues also are wonderfully inspiring; garden magazines are always near me and with me wherever I go. Even if you don't garden, photos of roses, peonies and lovely flowers usually can soften anyone's heart and banish the blues for a while.
If you like tea, brew a cup and sit down, again with your feet up, and just let yourself relax.
Integrate relaxation time into your daily schedule; and make sure you take that time while putting aside all your other chores and obligations at least long enough to restore a calm attitude.
A more analytical method is to make lists of everything you have to do, prioritize, and choose only one to do. It's hard - sometimes everything seems so important it has to all be done today. I think these concepts of what we perceive is necessary, as well as health concerns of ourselves and our loved ones, are the hardest anxieties to battle - often there's little control we have over them. And that lack of control is one of the most important things to recognize.
Sorry to hear how you feel. It is a struggle with so many things going on in life. All the suggestions are good. But for myself, I am trying to go back to basics, eating well, drinking enough water and getting enough sleep. I was reading tonight about doing daily affirmations like "I am worth." Repeat 20 times a day if necessary till you believe. Take care of yourself the best you can. Thinking of you.
I was dealing with major anxiety while trying to help my parents because I was placed into a situation where I knew nothing "about this job" and had no mentor to guide me. I got away from exercising and that cause major health issues with me. Now I am taking meds to help with my anxiety.
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