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Ellastine - You need to ask that question in a new post, rather then in this thread. Your situation is entirely different then this posters situation so it needs a new discussion started. Use the Caregiver Forum link above to find the 'Ask a Question" page to post your question about your husband.
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Oh my gosh, here I am answering a question that was asked in 2012. My Goodness...LOL..wonder how I ended up on this question.

I sure wish the poster would come back and update us then. Since this was 3.5 years ago, I sure do wonder what happened with this husband's wife and his situation.
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I am going through the same thing with my husband. I am a terrible caregiver in that I am impatient, yell at him a lot, and have to stop myself from hitting him. Then I am consumed with guilt, try to make it up to him, then he does something that totally pushes me over the edge, like continuously getting up without his walker, taking off his shoes, putting on my pants, and falling asleep at the table. He is in terrible shape, but I am in just as bad a shape mentally cause I just can't take it anymore. I cry and cry. I scream. I sit in my chair and get lost in TV programs. I don't contact my friends anymore. I see them having fun and doing lots of things with their spouses and I hate them for it. I hate myself more. I think of suicide every day. I think of ending his life, but imagined myself in prison thinking if I had just taken the steps to place him in a nursing home I'd be living a semi normal life. I would visit him every day, but I just can't handle changing his diapers, the bedwetting, the dementia, and child like behaviors. I am having a nervous breakdown. I know I should get help. I just can't. So I relate to how you feel about taking care of your wife. All those suggestions to address some of her physical problems. But you are DONE. As I am. They don't get that. I love my husband and am wracked with guilt at my failure to be a good caregiver. I can't get past being pissed that our lives have turned to utter misery. I wish us both luck.
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Lidiaparker55, you need to change your circumstances as soon as possible.

1) Select a good nursing home and get your husband in it. Try to find one with memory care also, in case his behaviors escalate and he needs that.
2) Arrange to visit husband once a day, or whatever is practical given its location and his level of dementia.
3) If necessary, apply for Medicaid.
4) Get counseling for yourself. You are experiencing a great trauma and you need/deserve therapy to help you heal.

It is expected that people who develop dementia will eventually need a care center. People with dementia who can stay in their homes are the exception. Please don't feel guilty that you can't beat the odds and care for this progressive disease at home indefinitely.
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