My mother has been in home for 2 years and while she is pleasant, she is constantly referring to boyfriends, parties, and seems to see me as her sister. This is especially difficult for my father as well. It is becoming difficult to visit yet she may live for years. If it wasn't for my father's sake, I'm not sure I would continue to visit on a regular basis. Have I finally given up on mom? Should I?
Krusso, I have read on this site when people criticize others who directly tried to help them and to those who were just commenting. As you have discovered, no one on this thread condemned you. You were condemning yourself. And that is also part of being a caregiver. The guilt we face on a daily basis.
I have had several times received some advice that I did not like. But I do not automatically react and type away my response. I stop reading AC and just think about what the posters said. If I agree with them, I follow their advice. if I don't, I don't. I will tell you this - I have been hurt twice on this site. Both times, I cried for a week - at work, driving, bathroom etc... Each time, I've learned to guard my heart here. But I had others who showed me support and helped me to come back here. I do what I can to help others - just as I have been helped. You All Take Care!!!
argue (I'm sure you don't). I went with him wherever he was. He was happy there and he became agitated if I tried to correct him. I know that everyone is different but it made it easier for both of us. Hugs!
My parents made no time for us, and when we graduated from high school, they kicked us out....literally! They said make it on your own as we have done enough. They took care of us out of obligation and because they brought us into the world. They never paid a dime for prom dresses, college, cars, or weddings. Never attended the Grandchildren's extracurricular activities or even baby sat with them. They are selfish people and just wanted us to leave them alone. So, guess what? I am happy to leave them alone. Also, sad but true, the Grandchildren are grown and want nothing to do with them. What does that tell you?