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parent documented monthly expense ( eletric, heat, ins, taxes,house maint, caretaker, legal fees ) leaves him with about $600 common sense will tell you that does not cover food and other small medical expenses, ( diapers, wipes, cream, asprins) which i pay a small amount towards a family member is questing where the $600 goes. i only save document receipts again common sense $600 goes quick in N Y im POA

As POA it is your responsibility to keep documentation of expenses for the person. It is not your obligation to disclose every receipt to family members. It can be done as a courtesy to your sibling.

I would be wary that it is a fishing expedition to see how much money your parent has and the root intention is a monetary gain on the siblings part. But I am a cynical person because I did encounter a dishonest person trying to gain financially with my uncle.

As POA I refuse to get into specifics with anyone. Even with my father and other uncle (his brother). If they dont like it they can use the court system. I always state my responsibility it to act in the best interest of Uncle. That is all.
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I kept every receipt. Mom got a small pension. Out of that pension she got her groceries and personal stuff. I put the amt received on an envelope and deducted the expenses. The receipts went inside the envelope with the month on the outside.

You are not oblidged to give you siblings any financial information. You are his representative and its between u and him only.
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Do you live with dad or does dad live with you? Who is the family member asking this? A sibling or a nosy aunt?
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billyb7777 May 20, 2026
sibiling, i live with dad
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"Dad’s documented monthly expenses leave only about $600 remaining after essential bills and care costs are paid. As you know, everyday expenses such as groceries, household supplies, over-the-counter medications, personal care items, transportation, and incidental medical needs add up very quickly in New York and have been going up almost weekly. I also personally cover some smaller expenses myself at times.

As PoA, I maintain appropriate records and am handling his finances responsibly and in his best interest. I’m not going to provide ongoing detailed accountings to anyone outside of a legal requirement to do so, but I appreciate your concern for Dad."
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A POA is chosen to make healthcare and/or financial decisions for someone when they can no longer do so for themselves. As such the POA is not obligated to answer to others, unless there’s a report of mishandling funds or application for financial assistance like Medicaid. A POA doesn’t have to answer to relatives. Keeping records is wise, but not for nosy relatives
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