My Mom is 91 years old and a resident in a nursing home. She lives in NJ and I live in FL. I have no family in NJ who can look in on my Mom nor keep me up to date with my Mom’s care. I stay in the loop via phone calls I make to the nursing home. I stay in touch with the nurses, the social worker and the physical therapist. I FaceTime with my Mom on a weekly basis. She’s now beginning to have panic attacks because she’s bedridden and her doctor prescribed her Xanax. So now, as of today I ask the young lady who does the FaceTime calls if she thought my Mom needed anything of the clothing nature. Since I live in another state I send my Mom what ever she needs via Amazon. The young girl told me that my Mom needs clothes. She said my Mom only had 2 pair of pajamas in her closet. I asked her if maybe house keeping had my Mom’s clothing and were washing them. She said no that she had checked with them and had nothing belonging to my Mom. Mind you I have my Mom’s name written with permanent marker on all the labels of her clothing. So is it the facility is not returning her clothes? This may sound like a minor issue however being the only one seeing to my Mom’s needs outside of medical care this is an issue. So I’m sending my Mom what ever she needs and the facility is not seeing she gets these articles of clothing? Can anyone shed light on this situation for me please? I don’t want to get this young girl in trouble for telling the truth. This is a delicate situation as this young girl has been a God send and has helped me (as an employee) with certain issues I’ve had with the nursing home. My Mom’s healthcare has been very good since she’s been a resident (it will be a year next month) however I’ve had to deal with certain issues that shouldn't have been or expected from a healthcare facility. Nothing really bad I have to say but again not issues you’d have to deal with from a nursing home. I’d really appreciate any advice or help anyone can offer me.
A short answer is to call the director of the facility, explain your issue and ask what the protocol is for getting things to your mom.
They will label the clothing for you before shipping. And the clothing will with stand the punishment that the laundry service does when running it through the sanitize cycle. They focus on clothing that makes dressing easier, which also may be helpful for your mother.
If you really want her closer, there are ways to make it happen...especially when you begin the phase where you have to fly up there many times.
My mom asked me to find her blouse. I went down to the laundry room and found it myself rather than asking for someone else to do it. I was lucky. I happened to spot it hanging up.
They put other people’s clothes in her closet. It happens even with names on clothing articles.
Now mom is in a hospice home. It’s very small. She is bed bound too. She only wears pajamas so she needs very few items.
Mom used to be a ‘clothes horse’ but now is most comfy in her pajamas.
So I was thinking of embroidering Luz's name on any clothing She would have if and when I had to put her into a home.
either her name or a large initial embroidered on the outside seemed to me as a way to reduce loss or aid in recovery.