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My husband has had dementia for many years, but never had a bed wetting problem until he started taking Seroquel three weeks ago. I'll take a wet bed over terrifying delusions, but I'd love some practical advice on how to handle this. We have a king sized bed, so changing sheets in the middle of the night is a huge hassle. I have one of those disposable pads under the sheet, but on top of the mattress pad. Should I put the pad on top of the sheet? If so, how do I keep it from sliding around while he sleeps? He wears CVS disposable underwear, but they're not tight enough around the legs to prevent leaking. Any advice will be greatly appreciated!

He needs to be wearing disposable incontinence underwear.
He may be sleeping so deeply that he does not get the body signal that he should get up.
That said incontinence happens with dementia so it is not unusual. this may be the start of your "new normal"

Get a waterproof mattress cover. And yes you will get hot!
Place the waterproof mattress pad on.
Make the bed as you normally do.
Place an absorbent pad on the fitted sheet, he will lay on it.
That absorbent pad should get any leaks from the disposable brief.
If your husband has many skin folds urine may still leak by traveling along the skin folds so you might want to also try an absorbent pad that is designed to be placed in the incontinence underwear.

I got a great absorbent pad through Costco made by a company called CONNI the pad is as wide as a twin bed and it will absorb over a gallon.!
Disposable pads are nice but reusable ones absorb more and are less expensive in the long run.
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Thank you both! I'll order some of the quilted pads right now!
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When my late husband's incontinence was off the charts, I would put a pad(Kotex like but for men) inside his Depend to soak up more of his pee, put several disposable chux under him on top of a large washable pad(all on top of the sheets), so that I didn't have to be changing sheets in the middle of the night.
He often would still be wet including his pj bottoms, but all I then had to do was change his Depend, his pj bottoms and the very top chux, leaving the other pads in place. My husband didn't move a whole lot over night however though, so that may be the difference.
You may have to get your husband up several times over night to take him to the bathroom to pee as well if you plan on keeping him home.
However incontinence is often the straw that will break the camels back.
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Git a big washable bed pad, like this
https://www.agingcare.com/products/quilted-bed-pad-204739.htm
And it might be time to consider a different arrangement for sleeping, two twin mattresses should = a king size one so you could still be together but each have different bedding.
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