I have no idea on what to do my mother is hearing full on conversations that I can't hear, and she says it is because the neighbors programed the AI for just her to hear them. On New Year’s Day I was woken up at 5am in the morning with police in the house wanting to ask me questions. My mother called the police and told them the neighbors drilled under the house to put spy cameras in the vents and used the video to make porn. None of which was true and they told me to get her to a doctor. My mother will not go to a doctor because she thinks it's all real. My mother woke me up at 3am she was outside said the house fell off the foundation and we have a crack in the roof. I had a foundation company look at the house nothing wrong with the house then she said I wonder why the neighbor lied to me then. The neighbor’s never even spoke to her it's all in her head. Then she said she had to turn the gas office in the house because the people in the furnace told the house was going to explode then she told me to look outside they were out there fixing it now. There was nobody outside we had freezing rain that night and I needed the heat back on before we had a bigger problem. How does someone out of their mind know how to shut the gas off? Today she saying we have hole in the foundation and it's a mess so she going to call a lawyer and sue the neighbors. The neighbors have done nothing to the house. I don’t know what to do.
Since Mom won't GO to seek medical advice, bring the medical advice to her.
Have you called her Doctor?
What did they advise?
Or a helpline?
Have you tried 911?
Explained, older lady, dellusional, hallucinating, past history UTI. Suspected UTI & needs medical investigation/treatment.
For people too mentally unwell to realise they are unwell & require urgent care, Baker Act can be used.
Video her with your phone if you can so you can show her what she was saying and doing. She will most likely call the cops again. Notice that she’s very sure of her beliefs. Don’t waste time arguing.
If she returns to a competent state you should have her sign power of attorney paperwork so you can take care of things should this recur.
So it’s probably lingering as making matters worse. But the bigger issue is that she will not allow you to take her to the hospital or see a doc or go to the ER so that she can be evaluated and get on whatever meds she needs to get her stabilized and really get that UTI cleared up. My guess is more than a UTI now, maybe C Deff. If so try to get her hospitalized for treatment as she’s not likely ever going to be compliant for care at home so all this will be rinse & repeat. Plus it will give you time to get some rest so you can think clearly as you’ll need to make some hard decisions in the near future.
JoAnn is spot on that the easiest is to get her Baker Act to get her on the hold that it provides. Use all of what you’ve posted here for the bullet points you need to described her behavior to get the Baker done, she is a danger to herself and you and kinda the neighborhood too. Right now her paranoias are all fixated on the neighborhs but if she changes it over to you it’s going to get super scary. You want to get her help before this ever happens.
Let us know how it goes. Please try to get some real sleep too.
Medical evaluation in hand, my husband applied for guardianship over both of his parents (father was already in a nursing home with dementia).
We had been unable to do anything to make his mother safe until we had the evaluation in hand as she refused to cooperate. Good luck
The police have warned you. Next time they come because she called ask them to Baker act her. That your afraid she hurt herself or do something like burning down the house. She will be evaluated for 72 hrs. If they think she is psychotic tell them she cannot return home until she is properly medicated. You cannot care for her as long as she is like this.