My mother has dementia, which I am sorry but at times I think she is faking cause can anybody be so out there!?! She has now started a new thing which is gross but I have a strong stomach but times its not possible not to vomit. Mom is now pooping and peeing EVERYWHERE like an untrained puppy. She wears depends but she will pull them down anywhere and go. Example such as in bed poop under her pillow, sits on edge of tub and does #1 and 2, in garbage cans, in the middle of floors, under coach coushins, she has even tried to do in the middle of Wal-Mart!! She of course uses her hand to wipe down there so now there is poo everywhere in her hair, mouth, face,walls, clothes, between her toes and under her finger nails. She is sly she will wait till I leave room to do it!! So she knows what she is doing! She likes to hide her poo I have caught her carry her poo to hide somewhere! She thinks it's funny!!!!! boy does that make me mad! Especially when I step in it!!! I try to hide most of this from the hubby and kids so they won't be grossed. WHAT DO I DO!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!
I once heard, that we go from a child, adult and in our old age back to being a child (stage). This is probably what's happening to your Mom's. She really wouldn't be joking about putting poop everywhere, including her mouth. She's very Blessed to have a faithful and committed daughter (you) there to take care of her. I do this kind of work, and it can be very stressful on the family. Find good help to assist you on this Journey. Taking breaks of relief will give you the strength needed to endure.
Have you addressed the sleeping issue with the doc as well? Has the doc given anything to help her sleep through the night? She might have nights and days reversed. Staying up 21hrs a day can't be good for her physical health either.
You and your family need rest. You can't stay up 21 hrs a day to keep tabs on her.
It is common for the feces to be smeared on beds, walls, body in nursing homes.
I wonder about your mental health hiding things, and trying to pretend it's ok when it's clearly not. Why?
Perhaps you can get aids in to occupy her time during the day, or even give you some respite. It'
Funny that parents will be good as gold around other people, but fight tooth and nail about everything with family. Good luck.