I have tried getting her lady panties with pads built in but she won't wear them. Yesterday I was checking my parents room and the smell of pee was awful. I used baking soda on the wooden floor and then mopped. Seems to work. But her night clothes continue to smell even after washing them with powder and softener. Any suggestions!!!
Enzyme-based cleaners are better than vinegar, much safer than chemical cleaners, but not cheap. They are made of bacteria and enzyme digesters. Basically, they cause a chemical reaction that breaks down biological matter (like urine) into its chemical components, which releases the stains and smells. When I worked in property maintenance, this is what we used to thoroughly clean a place after tenants with pets and/or young children. (There is pretty much no other way to get the smell of cat pee out of a floor vent!)
I got my mom into the Depends pull-ups by appealing to her sense of shame, to be honest. It helps that she has to go for medical treatments 3x a week, because she does NOT want the embarrassment of going out in the world smelling like urine or feces. Having home support back me up on the smell factor was also very helpful in this "conversion."