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I may be more concerned for you. If the needs are so constant that you can’t feel safe in a 20 minute break, it’s a big sign you need more help. What would happen to mom if you had an accident or became sudden unavailable? I hope you’ll make a plan for more help
my Mom 82 Ana has dementia I done ng it by my self caring for her I plan on buying a baby It’s like a TV and then it comes with the thing you can hear them crying or whatever because my mom is walking without her walker to sneak into the bathroom I can’t even have a nap so I know the feeling I’m scared that she might open up the door and takeoff in a condo
Does she get into that much trouble while you take a 15-20 minute shower, that it's necessary to lock her in her bedroom? Really? How about hiring someone to come stay with her(with her money not yours) for a few hours to keep her occupied so you can do whatever you would like? Or you can even take her to an Adult Day Care Center up to 5 days a week, so she can be kept occupied and fed, and you can take as many showers as you'd like, or whatever else you might want to do. It sounds like you may have bitten off more than you can chew right now, and it may be time to be looking into placing mom in the appropriate facility. And that's ok. A lot of folks come to the point where keeping their loved one at home just isn't working for them or their loved one anymore. I wish you the best.
Simple answer – yes you can. Of course, for a short while, in her best interests, and think again if it prompts a major meltdown. Give her something to occupy her, and go take your shower.
How many young mothers lock their toddlers out of the toilet while they change a tampon, with screams and thumps on the other side of the door? I certainly did! No-one suffers long term.
I am thinking if you cannot take your eyes off her long enough to take a shower you must be exhausted!
What's making Mom unsafe alone? Does she walk unsafely, start cooking unsafely or wander outside?
Or does Mom 'shadow' you everywhere & you need some privacy?
When I had very young children - very different I know, hear me out.. child 1 needed constant visual attention. I had to bring her into the bathroom with me.
Child 2 was happy alone but an escape artist. A playpen only worked for such a short time.
I came to the realisation I could not it do it alone. I needed a support person.
I would have to shower when DH was home.
I imagine there will be mixed responses on whether locking Mom's door is ok or not - regarding her safety, fear, rights etc.
I think this is a good question to ask. It may start many more questions about your situation. How are you coping? Are you trying to do it alone? How much other family help have you got, or can get? What non-family services have you researched & considered?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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How about hiring someone to come stay with her(with her money not yours) for a few hours to keep her occupied so you can do whatever you would like? Or you can even take her to an Adult Day Care Center up to 5 days a week, so she can be kept occupied and fed, and you can take as many showers as you'd like, or whatever else you might want to do.
It sounds like you may have bitten off more than you can chew right now, and it may be time to be looking into placing mom in the appropriate facility. And that's ok. A lot of folks come to the point where keeping their loved one at home just isn't working for them or their loved one anymore.
I wish you the best.
How many young mothers lock their toddlers out of the toilet while they change a tampon, with screams and thumps on the other side of the door? I certainly did! No-one suffers long term.
Very very different with elders with cog decline though 😞
What's making Mom unsafe alone? Does she walk unsafely, start cooking unsafely or wander outside?
Or does Mom 'shadow' you everywhere & you need some privacy?
When I had very young children - very different I know, hear me out.. child 1 needed constant visual attention. I had to bring her into the bathroom with me.
Child 2 was happy alone but an escape artist. A playpen only worked for such a short time.
I came to the realisation I could not it do it alone. I needed a support person.
I would have to shower when DH was home.
I imagine there will be mixed responses on whether locking Mom's door is ok or not - regarding her safety, fear, rights etc.
I think this is a good question to ask. It may start many more questions about your situation. How are you coping? Are you trying to do it alone? How much other family help have you got, or can get? What non-family services have you researched & considered?