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contact an elder attorney ASAP and find out what you can do. since you have no POA not much you can do. Is there anyway you can take her to his place? Contact an office of aging to find out information to handle the situation. you might have to find out how to have her placed and give them your "split husband" address/phone number and then change yours. seriously that was terrible thing to do. I wish you luck
Call Social Services. This woman doesn't belong at home. Your heartless soon to be ex obviously doesn't care if she dies on the street. You have no POA and can't take care of her. You obviously aren't going to get help from anyone in the family. For your own health and well being, as well as her own, this woman needs to be taken care of by someone who knows how to do it. Dementia is tough enough to deal with from your own blood relative. I can't see how you could do it given the resentment this whole situation has brought up.
In all due respect, why are you asking us what to do? Perhaps you need a lawyer. If she is still in 'your' house (which may be community property with her husband), she might be legally entitled to live there. I wonder, did you tell your husband to make arrangement for her or take her with him? What you said to him in this regard is important. Providing us more information could also have helped me understand the situation with more clarity to provide feedback.
I'd be calling Adult Protective Services and making clear you are not kin and have no responsibility for her...unless it is your desire to become her caregiver and want to seek out an elder law attorney and set up a caregiver agreement so you are adequately compensated for this insanity. ANd do take a moment to be glad your hubby is out of the picture.
Contact the local Department of health and human services. This is the agency that can help you figure out how to get her placed.
You must make it very clear that she is in an unsafe situation and requires care that has walked out. Please do not wait or you could be in trouble. You don't want her neglected and you don't want to look like a solution, it is a terrible situation for you. Please call tomorrow and get the ball roiling. Worse case scenario, call 911 and report that she is a danger to herself and others, this will get her transported for a psych evaluation and then you will have a case worker with the hospital to get things rolling.
Could we just spend a moment thinking --with compassion--about grandma? Her whole life is upside down and although she doesn't know all the details, she can feel the tension in the air She is not a commodity or a lost dog. Let's give her some love and respect. I realize that this is not solving anything-- it's just caring for another human being.
Well first of all she isn't related to you so you do not have a legal right to care for her. Contact her family and let them know that they need to get her out of your home and take care of her. This isn't your responsibility anymore if you husband has left and didn't consider his grandmother's care. If his family doesn't respond or act you can call the county and they will have to get involved in this mess. Good luck and I hope you get your home back.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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For your own health and well being, as well as her own, this woman needs to be taken care of by someone who knows how to do it. Dementia is tough enough to deal with from your own blood relative. I can't see how you could do it given the resentment this whole situation has brought up.
Perhaps you need a lawyer. If she is still in 'your' house (which may be community property with her husband), she might be legally entitled to live there.
I wonder, did you tell your husband to make arrangement for her or take her with him? What you said to him in this regard is important. Providing us more information could also have helped me understand the situation with more clarity to provide feedback.
You must make it very clear that she is in an unsafe situation and requires care that has walked out. Please do not wait or you could be in trouble. You don't want her neglected and you don't want to look like a solution, it is a terrible situation for you. Please call tomorrow and get the ball roiling. Worse case scenario, call 911 and report that she is a danger to herself and others, this will get her transported for a psych evaluation and then you will have a case worker with the hospital to get things rolling.
Best of luck finding her the care that she needs.
She is not a commodity or a lost dog. Let's give her some love and respect.
I realize that this is not solving
anything-- it's just caring for another human being.