I cook 3 meals a day. Give his showers. Wash clothes. Pay all his Bill's. Take him to Dr.'s. I do everything for him.
His dementia is getting worse. He gets around with his Walker. He uses the bathroom fine. No pull ups. Eats very good
Sleeps a little more. My sister has a problem with the amount of money I receive. He saw a lawyer and he drew up a contract and specified the amount. She's accusing me that with his dementia I set the amount.
Contract was drawn up almost 2 years ago. What do I do? She says $300.00 a month is plenty and I'm taking his money. She does not help me with any of his care and never offers.
I SPLIT THE REST OF THE CARE with my brother as we both held full time jobs, and we were absolutely exhausted all of the time
My uncle needed 24 hour care seven days/ week. There were three caregivers per day with some overlap between each. That cost approximately $15,840 per month in Atlanta. The caregivers split about $8,640/ month.
My two cousins SUPERVISED the caregivers and were exhausted and stressed all of the time.
The caregivers all had health insurance provided by the companies for which they worked.
How's that for context?
I am so sorry that your sister thinks you are being over paid. I know how physically and emotionally exhausted you are. Honestly no money is enough for what you do. You do it out of love.....and you are under paid. Not everyone can do what you are doing . I am going through the same caring for both my mom and dad .....it is not easy . Try not to listen to your sisters remarks. Let her try it for a few days and she will understand . Your father is very blessed to have you. I pray for your continued strength and courage .
I don’t know if you are also getting room and board, but, even so, $1000 is a good amount. I hope his will takes into account how valuable you are.
I also hope this gives you something to tell your sister. She is way off base here.
best wishes
We are on 14 months but we did not get paid first 8 months. It is what is important to your dad and if he is safe and happy!
When my turn came and I was granted guardianship the Judge called me to his desk and counseled me of what I could and could not spend my husband's money on. I couldn't even buy my own groceries with his money BUT he told me I could pay myself and keep financial records for my husband. I did and I payed myself a much lower fee than the other caregiver, 1200 a month. It felt odd to collect money from my husband for his care and actually a little guilty but if I had been working for an agency I would have made much more for the care I gave him . I had to file accounting every year and was never once questioned about it.
Your sister should sit down and do a little research about care costs.
You're worth it!