I have noticed many stories on this site carry the theme of an emotionally blackmailing mothers. The physical and mental health, the social/marital life, and financial stability of their caregivers, mainly daughters, are being destroyed by such verbal and emotional abuse. Is this a generational problem or unique situations that drive so many to this site looking for help and validation plus a safe place to vent?
me: "Look I understand I live in your house I live by your rules. However, you are not offering me any other choices."
mother: "I am offering you a choice a free education." (refering to college)
me: "I need a computer or something to work in college and you are completely unwilling to provide privicy or the other."
mom: "You owe me a debt your electronics are my compensation"
me: "My electronics are my only source of income."
mom: "Give them to me or i kick you out and disown you."
Basically this h*ll sh*t goes on i have no choice to give the electronics which are locked inside of a safe.
So yeah. Two words i constantly say to my mother "F*ck You" Note to parents respect your kids and they will respect you.
Of course none of my brothers "owe" her anything. Not even the one who lived with my parents without paying any rent in the expensive NYC suburbs until he was 29 and my parents moved down here. He cannot do anything for her, because he is so "busy" and has to have 24/7 Internet access, etc. He hardly even comes to visit now. Of course if I brought this up to her, she would start crying and shaking and telling me how worthless I am. That's what happened when I reminded her that there was a 5-year period in the 2000s when that brother didn't even see my parents for FIVE years.