Mom is 82 1/2, with mild dementia, still works part time as a hairdresser. makes messes and leaves them for me to clean up. She never says thank you but treats me like a maid. She is most times, nasty to me. If I try to talk to her I get an attitude. Any advice? This is not fun and Im tired of her "abuse". She doesnt appreciate me. I am Cinderella to a functioning dementia patient!!! Best- Sandiw50
I mean what do you do sit outside all night until they arrive hire bin security?? this really makes me so mad and i just cant think of a solution?
Plus when we were children one's Mom was usually in her 20's and 30's.... not in her 60's and 70's.... huge difference energy wise. I know my parents can't understand why I nap.... HELLO.... I'm a senior citizen, too.
I suspect that it isn't the cleaning of messes that is getting you down. It is being treated like a maid, and never getting the appreciation that other family members get who haven't even provided help. Am I right?
I don't see anything you can do about this. And I think it will get worse. When Mom's dementia and/or diabetes gets worse and she needs to go to a care center and will have a penalty period because of all she's given away that is going to be a big mess for someone to clean up. Do you want it to be you?
And as far as worrying about what is fair and not fair in the will ... most people in you mother's situation will have nothing to leave in a will. Their final care will eat up all assets.
So, why are you staying? In hopes that Mom will suddenly see the light and start appreciating you and treating you at least fairly? Sorry. The evidence is that ain't gonna happen.
My advice: Get a job. Support yourself. Move out.
If you are paying rent, then don't spoil her.