I was taking care of my mother for almost five years and she passed away end of 2018. It seemed it was getting easier a couple months ago.
But recently I've been dreaming of her every other day and wake up lost. I started to cry over missing her all over again. I don't know how to get through this. Any advice would help? I've talk to a counselor but its not helping.
You can write about the people who are disappointing you if you want to and explore in writing how you are feeling useless and depressed.
Sharing your feelings with others in a support group or on a forum like this one is a big help, but there may be lots of hours of the day when you need something more. Don't be surprised if you cannot concentrate on "normal" activities or if you have no patience when things are not going smoothly. It's difficult and uncomfortable, but it's normal. The intensity of your despair will soften over time.
Please forgive yourself for saying those things to ur mother. It's only human to have regrets, but let God forgive u. We are all in need of God's mercy, & we cannot earn it... it's only given as a free gift. 💟
(I'm in that line too)😱.
It won' tbe Easy for awhile But Keep Busy and try and Focus on you. It is hard to move on when you have been this Angel who was there for her.
What has helped me is looking at photos of past, happier times. I miss mom a lot, but after her long life, she was 93, at least nothing bad can get her now. I try to think of vacations we took and times she enjoyed her life. You took care of your mom a long time, you were a good care giver to her. Think about what she would want for you for taking such good care of her. My mom told me many times on her deathbed that she wanted me to do things and be happy for all the good care I gave her.
That's a lovely memory & you're very fortunate! (We don't all have that good ending). Peace 2us all.
Many people say that exercize will lift your spirits, (though it's hard to get started when you feel low.
If you have enough money, get a trainer (temporarily), to get you started. Your mom would want you to take good care of yourself.💟 Every small step is going to help u get momentum, so keep going!
Know this: You will be fine...because you ALREADY are!
No idea what I'm angry about, just so tense & miserable... which isn't my norm.
I heard that's part of grieving, but I don't understand that.
So if you start to feel angry after your sorrow passes, I guess it's just one of the stages we may go through. Just sayin'.
In grief-world, everything is normal.
Anger. Blankness. Silliness. Sadness. Mania. Defeat. Despair. Peace. Agitation. Detachment. Clarity.
Spin the wheel. It’s all normal.
And as so so many have said, there’s no timetable.
(((hugs)))
Do you think mom would be helpful if you shared these fears with her? If she can still understand, that is
I've suffered lots of lonely holidays since my divorce 8yrs ago,
& I dont want you to do that. It's only Sept, but have a plan so you don't end up like me.
I am here if you need to talk/vent. I understand your pain. I really do. You are not alone.