MOm has alzheimers and recently ordered something over the phone that was costly and she didn't need- she is 86 and it was anti-wrinkle treatment system. She later tried to cancel it but couldn't get through and neither could I so we were just going to send it back when it came. Instead, she opened it, not remembering now that she had ordered it-swearing she didn't order it. Now she wants to move into a smaller duplex in the same area we live in to save $100.00 a month in rent, not realizing how much it will cost to move her and she will have to move again at some point when she no longer can stay alone. We were going to move in together, she forgot all about that and changes every day what she is going to do. The other part of the equasion is that I have a sister that is here also that I am sure puts ideas in mom's head but denies it to me. From her (the sister) history she can't be believed. She is extremely jealous of the relationship I have with Mom and I know she takes any opportunity she can to try to come between us because Mom has told me things that the sister has said that were either not true or non of her business to tell. I feel like I am going crazy, trying to help Mom and trying to make sure the sister isn't working with me. She know I have the power of attorney and I know that she is very mad about that. She acts so nice, but she never misses an opportunity to go behind my back and undermine any plans Mom and I have talked about.
If your father has substantial assets, see his attorney to set this up. The fee can be paid from Dad's funds.
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A month later she put our mum into a care home, now when i call mum she is crying on the phone to come home, we would love mum to come and live with us,but cant as my sister has p.o.a it is extremy upset to hear my mu crying on the phone, please can someone help
I have a younger brother and sister that do nothing to help and did nothing when I had to move him and then return to CA to sell his house. I have never had any issue with the Durable POA or any of his paperwork from any bank, mortgage company etc. Do your documents early in life and don't leave your kids to figure it all out after you cannot make decisions. My father's documents actually state "if anyone listed contests any of his legal documents that that person will be treated as if they were never listed".