Boyfriend has manipulated me to care for his mother with dementia. Incontinent of both bowel and bladder. Resistant to care. Hallucinates constantly. I’m sad, resentful and depressed. He works min of 65 hours weekly up to 80 hours. So I’m with her primarily. She has dementia with behaviors. She’s very difficult to care for or like. If I mention anything about it, he blows up. Should I move out?
Good luck dear lady.
Leave as soon as you have somewhere to stay. Lover Boy will have to pay for his mother’s care, or (more likely) find another girlfriend.
Christian does not equal doormat -
Whether you agreed (or not) to care for her, it is okay to step back and say I can't do this. That is the definition of modesty, knowing our limits and respecting them. And if we don't respect our limits, no one else will.
Are you able and willing to cut ties with him and move on at this point in your life? I think you can, but what is important is whether you think you can. I always think it is a good idea to have a exit strategy.
If you stay.... You already have an idea of how things will be. His mother WILL get worse and his treatment of you WILL get worse as well.
Hope this helps.
Sparkles