My mother in law refuses to vacate our premises so my family can come visit me for 2 to 3 weeks. We live in a 3/2. My Mother-in-law lives in the second bedroom, the third is a 10X10, used as an office. In 6 years, my family has never visited me. My husband feels that my family can sleep on the floor, in the office. Two parents and 2 children. The office is entirely furnished, with not much space to navigate the movement of 2 adults and 2 children. I disagree that they should sleep on the floor, sharing the bathroom with his mother. I feel his mother should go visit her other son who lives in Utah. We live in Santa Fe, NM. Inviting her to come live with us when her husband died, was the worst mistake I've made, possibly in my life. Now I can't get rid of her. She talks about my house as if it belongs to her. "No, I'm not leaving" she says. My husband is absolutely against having his mother going anywhere else for the duration of my family's visit. If it was up to me, she would go live in a nursing home, for good. This entire situation is eating me alive, as she is a constant reminder that my house is where she lives, and there is no way for me to get rid of her. Please help me with advice or ideas. How can I legally get rid of her, so she can go live somewhere else. This is legally my house. I put half the down payment on the house, I've been married to this man for more than 25 years. Neither my husband nor his mother will give an inch to come to an agreement. She had the audacity to suggest that I should rent a room from one of our neighbors. The longer she stays in my house, the greater my animosity and dislike for her. I have told her numerous times, I don't want her in my house. I can't be more clear than that. I will not stop pounding on this, until she leaves, or I die. The reality is, we can't be in the same house, knowing that this is my house and she is very much an invader. Once you are told to -leave, you become an invador if you fail to do so. My mental health is being greatly affected by her continuous presence in my home. Please help. I will not change my mind about her leaving. She must absolutely vacate that bedroom for three weeks. That is not negotiable.
However it is OK to put MIL up in a hotel for the time you need the extra room. You have a half share in the marriage and in the house, don’t you? Leave the ‘get her out completely’ for another time and another argument.
If your husband does not come around and he continues to put his mother first and allows her to live in your home ( which is making you miserable ) , go to a divorce lawyer , maybe he/she can help you kick them both out of your house .
So sorry. Good luck.
See a marriage counselor who may be able to talk you through this. You'll both have to be on the same page about asking MIL to move out for 3 weeks AND to move out permanently. It's not your decision 100% OR his decision 100%. It's a decision you arrive at together, as a team.
If not, sell the house and take your half of the proceeds, or have hubby buy you out, and he and mommy can live together happily ever after while you start a new life.
Best of luck with a difficult situation.
You own the home jointly, correct? Then it's as much his as yours.
Yes, inviting her to live with you was an error.
Have you sought therapy to deal with this issues?