My brother resides 100 miles away, I am 1/4 mile away. I am primary care taker. How do I change an enacted POA to become #1?
I took my mother to the ER and was physically there with her, but had to wait for my brother to make decisions with a voicemail, and a return phone call back through out the night.
Thank you!
Is this POA for health care? What an absolute shame that you are the one taking her to treatment and appointments and have no way to get information. As POA I wonder if your brother is able by phone to appoint you as Health Care POA thru a first phone call, since you are listed as the second already. I don't even know if this is possible.
Do you and your brother agree on the fundamentals of her care going forward? Does he also wish for you to have the POA for Health care? Because if he does he could resign as health care POA and you would be next in line.
Is your Mom too demented to go to an attorney to change this? Have you spoken with your bro about how to do this? Your Mom doesn't have to have a great memory to appoint you health care POA, she just needs to have the wherewithall to prove to the notary that she understands what she is doing and why she is doing it (she is in your direct care) in appointing you.