husband is 59 with dementia from stroke a year ago, he is not in late stage of life, but he hardly eats anything, I make 3 meal a day , yesterday and day before he didn't eat lunch or dinner, he is diabetic and insulin dependent, this is getting so confusing, giving him shots and not eating, wondering if he is going to go to low from not enough food, any suggestions please
I'd do a stick for blood sugar levels throughout the day just to see how things are going and keep a log of the readings, carbs eaten, etc. If it's really low, like below 70, I'd contact his doctor by phone immediately and ask for instructions. Keep sugar source handy. Watch if he is shaky, nervous, sweaty, hot or more confused than normal.
Also, I'd have his A1C checked to see what he's averaging. If he's lost weight or isn't eating much, his dosage may need to be changed.
I'm Type I and even when I don't eat, often my blood sugars are still really high, but if I'm taking insulin, they may plummet under the same circumstances.
We know you're husband needs to eat the balanced diet. But how to encourage him to do it is the problem. My mother has gotten to the point in her life where she is shunning most vegetables. I end up cooking green beans for most dinners, since it is a vegetable she doesn't shun yet. I do the best I can, but know I can't force feed her. She takes her sugar twice a day and I either supplement her Levimir with a bit of short-acting insulin or encourage her to get a snack -- whichever is needed in the evening.
We've had a few hypoglycemic episodes here. Those are not fun. Fortunately I was able to get her back with some orange juice or Coke. I understand your concern. We can only do the best we can.
Has your doctor prescribed anything to help with mood? Such antidepressants, e.g. Remeron, can stimulate appetite. Some of the sedatives, e.g. Xanax, will do the same. It may help a lot to find something that works for your husband.