How to deal with a narcissist uncle in his 70s and his bad behavior?
Recently my uncle, who has all ways been a narcissist, has been getting worse and worse. Everyone is in denial. It’s really coming out lately. Just this week we had pizza. My boyfriend and I ordered separately. The pizza came, I took three pieces (I was starving) my uncle said, "Why don’t you just eat one at a time? You don’t really need three do you?" My boyfriend went off on him. No one else stood up for me. I’m still hurt and angry at this. My uncle does not know me or my eating habits. It’s none of his business what or when I eat. I never liked him, I still don’t. Why do you need to know what I eat? He has been just blurting things out without thinking. He is on 25 meds, has strokes. That’s what is doing it. No, he is a true narcissist. A mean and nasty person. My dad's side has always been mean, but this tops it. Everyone is in denial. I know his wife is acting just like him. I could go and on about his behavior and how he acts, No, it’s not the meds effecting him. He is a true narcissist. Mean and rude plain and simple.
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I think you overreacted. Having multiple strokes can cause cognitive problems even Dementia. With Dementia and even just a stroke, people lose their filters. Strokes damage brains. What comes into the person's head may come right out of their mouth. You should have ignored his comment and your BF should have said nothing. No one stood up for you because you were both wrong and someone should have pulled you aside and told you that.
I have grandsons 28 and 9 yrs old and I have found that neither have been taught manners because they were never sat down to eat dinner as a family. Mom and Dad eat in the living room watching TV and grandsons were delegated to the table alone. My 9 yr old does not know how to cut a piece of meat.
Your Uncle was correct, when you eat a piece of pizza, you eat one piece at a time out of the box. No problem eating 3 slices just one at a time from the box. Sometimes our eyes are bigger than our stomachs. No one may want a pc of pizza that u have already had your hands on. I think your boyfriend owes your Uncle an apology.
There is a certain respect you should give people much older than you.
But rudeness isn't the same thing as narcissism.
If you aren't responsible for hands on care of your uncle, and he has been rude to you for as long as you can remember, your best bet is to limit your time with him, especially when it comes to sharing meals.
If you don't like his running commentary, or him, don't order pizza and eat with him in the future, that's your best bet Lolaloud.
that's an 81 word sentence.